Or perhaps her first language is not English?
If you kill a person, you’re a murderer. If you steal, no one would hesitate to call you a thief. But in America, when you force yourself on someone sexually, some people will jump through flaming hoops not to call you a rapist.
If you kill someone you could commit euthanasia, perform an abortion, be an executioner, be found guilty of manslaughter, be found to have caused a death accidentally. None of these are synonyms for murder nor would everyone agree that you should be called a murderer in all of those circumstances.
So it is with “forcing yourself on someone sexually”. There are differences, gradations, and not all of them are rape and nor would all of them mean that you should be called a rapist.
This is not just the Whoopi Goldberg “rape rape” point. There is, for example, a difference between attempted rape (which is still to force yourself on someone sexually) and rape. Between sexual abuse and rape, between copping a feel and rape.
Language is important and it’s not being so treated.