The Dilemma I am a woman in my early 20s, about to graduate from university and consider myself very independent with a healthy, normal, happy life. About two years ago I started watching porn. I didn’t even know what to look for, then I began to develop my own tastes and searched for specific things. What worries me is that my searches are for simulations of abuse – something that doesn’t reflect at all what I feel about the subject. I hate patriarchy and rape culture. Another issue that worries me is that now, when having sex with my boyfriend, I invent abuse stories and play them in my head in order to reach orgasm. I don’t like to role play any of those fantasies, I like to feel loved when having sex. I feel like none of this is healthy nor nurturing for my self development. Is it really that worthy of preoccupation?
What you think you know about the world isn’t quite what you do know about the world perhaps?
Another issue that worries me is that now, when having sex with my boyfriend, I invent abuse stories and play them in my head in order to reach orgasm.
Woman thinks she wants a sensitive, caring, effeminate feminist boyfriend. Finds she can only enjoy sex by imagining him as a dominant, abusive male.
Still waiting for the penny to drop.
Modern Western civilisation is a long exercise in delusion. We should stop lying to girls.
Tim – “There’s a reason 50 Shades sold so well love”
i think mariella made that point in her reply.
“Meanwhile, in a world where Fifty Shades of Grey sold in the millions to readers who wanted to imagine a domineering sexual dynamic they certainly weren’t campaigning for in real life, I think you can relax.”
No time for her non-problem, please just stop bullshiting people are like what you like and dont hate yourself for it.
Yeesh.
Some peoples sexual preferences!? –
Neesh
“Woman thinks she wants a sensitive, caring, effeminate feminist boyfriend. Finds she can only enjoy sex by imagining him as a dominant, abusive male.”
Yes. She’s just a normal healthy woman, who merely needs a good seeing-to, on a regular basis, from a man with some balls. Something you aren’t going to get from a Guardianista boyfriend.
The Guardian – a modern Bedlam.
” I hate patriarchy and rape culture…….I invent abuse stories and play them in my head in order to reach orgasm.”
Feminist ideology is a social construct and has no basis in reality. Or – feminists are mental.
Plenty of people have fantasies that as fantasies are great but they would be horrified by them in real life.
Blokes into girls wearing school uniforms, violent sex acts, water sports, fisting etc.
Fantasies can help a person, with a very trusted partner they could even be acted out with appropriate props, safe word etc.
The fantasy and the reality can be extremely different. The ‘rape’ fantasy isn’t that uncommon in women, pretty much all of them would be appalled by an actual attack. As would most of their partners.
She hates the patriarchy and rape culture but couldn’t get past 21 before getting hooked on internet porn. And although she claims to want to be loved when having sex, now she has to play back violent porn in her head to have an orgasm.
No problems between the ears there.
I’d say she’s about five years away from bullwhips and cattle prods.
I can see her next letter to The Guardian:
“As I was hanging upside down being whipped by a leather-clad stranger at the local BDSM club last night, I started to reflect on how little love there seems to be in my life. I hate the patriarchy and rape culture in all its forms. Is that why I can’t find a sensitive, caring, normal guy?”
And the answer from The Guardian would be…
“Yup. Goddamn patriarchy!”
Surprised it took her so long to get onto porn.
Round here the 11 year olds are watching it. By 14 they are filming it themselves or taking part in it. So the teens say.
Tainted Love: Why is 50 Shades of Grey so Popular?
@Anita Gutwell
Fucking hell- if I ever need an example of something that is simultaneously terrifying and patronising, I’ll use that link.
“Imperfectly formed”? Jesus.
I think this might cure the poor woman: http://bit.ly/2mY1f3t >shudder<
Fucking hell- if I ever need an example of something that is simultaneously terrifying and patronising, I’ll use that link.
My question is this: How much money did that bimbo pay a college to drill that shit into her foot thick skull?
@DtP
Perhaps we’ve been wrong all this time- some people do need protecting from themselves
God, the sheer, revolting narcissism of the modern progressive.
Her boyfriend would be well-advised to run far, far away from her, and soon.