If you had tried to understand, instead of calling me impressionable and discounting the validity of my gender expression, maybe we would still be talking. Maybe I wouldn’t have hidden my transness for more than two years to satisfy the implicit expectations of me not to be a boy.
It’s just one of those things, isn’t it? That people do expect women to be women. Actually, whatever ones’ views on trans-ness we do all still expect women to be women. That being what the vast majority are. So what’s with this implicit stuff?
It’s hard to hear that you are responsible for hurting someone. But, if you got this far, I’m going to give you a tip: instead of asking questions, take action to make people feel comfortable enough to be honest. Projecting your ideas of normality and coating them in a thick layer of “concern” achieves nothing.
At the end of the day, you took away my right to define myself and to decide when I would share that with other people.
This is how you pushed me away. Reflect and do better.
Apparently her aunt started asking “Why’s she dressing like a boy?”
This being unforgiveable. Sigh.
For that is rather to miss the point of language, the very thing that makes us human. The best theory yet about how it arose is so that we could gossip about those in our clan grouping, this being one of the things which reinforces the bonds of said clan and thus enables us to survive this harsh world.