It is bad news for sensitive, skinny men, but the old rules may still apply in the dating game.
When it comes to what women want, muscular, tall men still win out, a study suggests.
The office Christmas party is a chance to let your hair down but there’s a danger of waking up with something a lot nastier than a hangover the next day.
One in five say they’ve had a sexual encounter with a co-worker at the annual bash, according to a new survey.
And one in ten admit they’ve caught a sexually transmitted infection (STI), such as chlamydia and gonorrhea.
It ain’t true that 10% of the population shag at a Christmas party. And it certainly ain’t true that 50% of shags lead to an STD.
OK, that second might be influenced by adding up multiple years of shagging at the party but still, no, not true numbers.
A man who carries a small dose of gay genes in his genome would, according to the theory, improve his success in the heterosexual mating game. That “certain something” that heightens sex appeal probably consist exactly of those essentials which make homosexuals different from heterosexuals in the first place. According to his theory, the alleged “gay genes” equip men who carry the heterozygous disposition with an above-average degree of feminine traits such as sensitivity, gentleness and friendliness. Gay genes therefore form a natural antidote against “hypermasculine” genes that turn men into rough machos. They would promote properties that appeal to women and indicate a good suitability as a father and significant other. A lesbian disposition lends women reversed traits that helps their reproductive success. Surveys have already shown that psychologically “masculine” women have more sex contacts.
Imagine, for example, there were five genes, each of which occurs in duplicate and increases the probability of homosexuality, Miller speculates. Only if a man had all five alleles in duplicate, he would be gay. “That would be an event that occurs with a probability of 1 to 32, meaning in 3 percent of all men.” Such a system would already be evolutionary stable if a hint of homosexual disposition would increase the genetic fitness of heterosexuals by only 2 percent.
Whether it’s right or not it does seem to make sense.
Whatever will science tell us next?
While technology may have strengthened the fight against HIV and Aids in many countries, in Pakistan it has led to an increase in HIV infection among young people, health experts and activists have warned.
Mobile apps and social media have opened new avenues for social encounters in the conservative south Asian country. For gay men and male sex workers in particular, smartphones provide a degree of sexual liberation, a way of connecting with partners away from the streets.
Yet many remain unaware of the risks of HIV, allowing the spread of the virus to accelerate.
I suppose we could posit a Kuznets Curve here. In a truly conservative society, where no one ever has sex outside the one single marriage they contract then STDs near wouldn’t exist at all*. Then as sexual contacts increase the STD rate goes up. Then everyone worries about it and we get to the Brave New World of entirely full body condom sex and the rate declines again**.
We also get back to that old economic insistence that there are no solutions, only trade offs. What is that acceptable one between freedom and liberty of action, the STD rate and human sexuality?
*Humans, of course, have never had such a society.
**Humans, of course, have never had such a society.
An architect who was the first Britain to have a same-sex marriage legally recognised died after overdosing on a gay sex drug when they broke up, an inquest has heard.
Then again, that social science finding about stereotypes.
My problem with Viagra? It feeds men’s obsession with macho performance
The proportion of women who never have children has doubled in a generation, ONS figures show.
The official figures show that of women born in 1946, just 9 per cent were still childless at 45 – the age the ONS defines as the end of childbearing years.
Statisticians said women were less likely to be married and more likely to be putting off having children until they could no longer have them.
Of those born in 1971, 18 per cent were childless in 2016, when they turned 45. Almost half of women who turned 30 in 2016 did not have any children, up from a low of just 18 per cent in 1976.
Not something I know, not something I could even find the figures on. But rolling around in the back of memory is the idea that historically some 80% of women had children, only some 40% of men.
If true (anyone?) then this would make those post-war years the anomaly, not the present day…..
Sex education may need to become more graphic because teenagers are increasingly experimenting with taboo practices, a new study has warned.
One is the way they mean this to be read. Which is that porn and general societal pressures have meant that the kids are getting a little more exotic in the sex that they’re having. Thus the education about it needs to be about the rather more exotic stuff too.
There is the other manner as well. Which is that more sex education leads to more sex being had (consistent with observation at least) and that in itself leads to more exotica (similarly consistent with the evidence). Thus we need to teach about even more exotica.
Page, a high-profile gay actor known for the films Juno and Inception, accused Ratner of encouraging another woman to have sex with her, saying: “You should fuck her to make her realize she’s gay” during the making of X-Men: The Last Stand.
The allegation by Page, who said she was not out of the closet when Ratner made the remark, is the latest in a series of sexual misconduct accusations against the film-maker. The X-Men director was recently accused of harassment, assault and rape and has denied the allegations. He filed a libel suit against a former talent agency employee who wrote on Facebook that Ratner had forced himself on her.
Page, who came out as gay in a 2014 speech and has since become a vocal advocate for LGBT rights, published a lengthy Facebook post about Ratner and sexual misconduct in Hollywood on Friday.
She said Ratner had made the comment about her being gay during a cast and crew “meet and greet” before filming began: “I was a young adult who had not yet come out to myself. I knew I was gay, but did not know, so to speak. I felt violated when this happened … This man, who had cast me in the film, started our months of filming at a work event with this horrific, unchallenged plea. He ‘outed’ me with no regard for my well-being, an act we all recognize as homophobic.”
Crude, yes, rude, yes, homophobic? Really not sure about that at all.
For homophobic really just does not mean any act or action that makes a gay person unhappy. Nor is it insulting someone who is gay.
A Welsh Labour minister who took his own life days after being sacked for alleged sexual misconduct was kept in the dark over the claims, close friends complained on Tuesday night.
Carl Sargeant, 49, a married father-of-two, was discovered dead at the family home in North Wales on Tuesday morning. Sources said he had taken his own life.
Mr Sargeant had been sacked as Welsh Cabinet Secretary in charge of communities and children on Friday after at least three women were reported to have made allegations against him. In his ministerial role, he had been a champion of female victims of sexual violence and domestic abuse.
Leighton Andrews, a former colleague on the Welsh Assembly, said his close friend had not been informed of the details of the allegations.
A victim of what of course. Remorse at decades of appalling behaviour? Or of unfair accusations?
No doubt significant police and societal resources will be devoted to finding out, eh?
Lordy, how bad do things have to get in your life when you’re reduced to inviting Andrea Leadsom MP to put her hands down the front of your trousers?
Not a real one, not a social one either:
A second man has accused Kevin Spacey of sexually harassing him.
Tony Montana, a filmmaker, alleges that the House of Cards star was intoxicated when he “groped” his groin at a Los Angeles bar in 2003.
Speaking to the online website Radar, Mr Montana, who was in his 30s at the time, makes a number of unsubstantiated allegations about the star, claiming: “I went up to order a drink and Kevin came up to me and put his arm around me. He was telling me to come with him, to leave the bar. He put his hand on my crotch.
“I put my hand down and turned his thumb back to get his hand off it. I paid for my drink and got away from him.”
He claims Spacey then followed him into the lavatories, adding: “One of his friends was in line and I said, ‘It’s time to take your boy home.’ They all ended up leaving.”
Jeebus, get with it folks. Drunks importuning for sex, copping a feel, sure, it’s not nice but it’s going to happen as long as we sell alcohol, isn’t it? It’s just part and parcel of that richness of a late night lifestyle.
Seriously, drunk tries it on, friends alerted, they take him home?
A little more info, it was in a dive bar (read, local pub more than anything else) in West Hollywood. Hmm.
While dozens of those on the list are accused of “inappropriate” behaviour, others, such as the Home Secretary Amber Rudd, are included for doing nothing more than having consensual relationships with colleagues.
Another minister, Jake Berry, is named on the list simply for having a baby with his live-in partner, who works for Boris Johnson.
Edwina Currie, the former health minister who had an affair with John Major when he was prime minister, said that people making passes at each other in the workplace could not and should not be “banned” and that many of the allegations on the list were “trivial”.
The amusing thing here.
Back two generations having a baby out of wedlock, shagging, in a relationship, one of your colleagues you weren’t married to. These would be things barring you from being a Tory Minister.
That they’re not now is an advance.
Chasing the office totty would not have been such a bar. Unless found out to have succeeded. That we now say that chasing those who work for you, those you have career power over, is not allowable is also an advance.
That we also appear to have reached the point where “fancy a shag?” is not allowable is not an advance.
How dare you, Kevin Spacey. One of the age-old tropes deployed against gay and bisexual men is that they pose a threat to children, that they are synonymous with paedophiles and pederasts. This vicious lie has long proved useful in justifying the systematic persecution of gay and bisexual men.
Some are indeed pederasts. Just as some who identify as heterosexual chase kiddies. As some women do. To borrow a word, there’s some intersectionality going on here.
We, today and quite rightly, say that consenting adults are consenting adults and that’s that. And that not consent and not adults aren’t.
French feminists have interrupted a retrospective of film-maker Roman Polanski in Paris, with a topless protest against the Franco-Polish director who has been accused of a string of sexual assaults.
Adult women you see, actual norks.
Another alleged incident happened in a toilet at the 2013 Edinburgh TV Festival. The Sun quoted sources as claiming Spacey made an advance on a writer, who pushed the actor away and left.
There was a furor over whether John Gielgud should be pardoned for similar importuning. And I’m sure there are parts of our society where cottaging etiquette is actively taught by the state.
Seriously, “Fancy a shag? No, OK then” isn’t a crime to the very heavens.
Kevin Spacey has responded to allegations he made unwelcome sexual advances towards a 14-year-old actor, saying he did not remember the incident but if it did happen it was likely “deeply inappropriate drunken behaviour” for which he sincerely apologises.
The Star Trek: Discovery star Anthony Rapp has accused Spacey of traumatising him after a party in New York in 1986.
In an interview with BuzzFeed, Rapp alleged that Spacey, then 26, invited him and a 17-year-old friend to a nightclub, despite both being visibly underage, during which they were entertained in the VIP area by Spacey.
Rapp said Spacey then followed up with an invitation to a party at his Manhattan apartment, which Rapp attended.
Rapp said he spent much of the party “kind of bored” and watching television in the bedroom until late into the night, before noticing Spacey standing at the bedroom door and realising all the other guests had left the party.
He said Spacey “sort of stood in the doorway, kind of swaying. My impression when he came in the room was that he was drunk … He picked me up like a groom picks up the bride over the threshold. But I don’t, like, squirm away initially, because I’m like, ‘What’s going on?’ And then he lays down on top of me.”
Rapp described the experience as “a frozen moment … In terms of fight or flight or freeze, I tend to freeze.”
Rapp said he believed Spacey was trying to “seduce” him but that he was able to “squirm” away soon afterwards, closing himself in the bathroom before telling Spacey he was leaving. “As I opened the door to leave, he was leaning on the front door[frame]. And he was like, ‘Are you sure you wanna go?’ I said, ‘Yes, good night,’ and then I did leave,” Rapp said.
Drunk bloke tries to seduce someone, nothing happens.
Film at 11.
That’s one way to read it.
Another is attempted paedophilia, or at least ephebophilia, along with an actual real crime of underage in a nightclub (for whatever importance one ascribes to that).
Be interesting to see what happens here, won’t it? Does it fit the narrative of all men being aggressively Weinstein? Or give that the intended seductee was male, it doesn’t fit the narrative of women being those who suffer from it?
Senior MPs have raised complaints that allegations of sexual harassment are still not being taken seriously enough by their parties and whips despite years of warnings about inappropriate behaviour in Westminster, the Guardian has learned.
How many of those voicing concern are going to be facing such allegations?
Valentino Talluto, a 33-year-old accountant, seduced dozens of women via social networks for a decade before his arrest in November 2015. Police believe he had sex with at least 53 women during that time, passing on the virus to 32 of them.
Drinking red wine at least once a week may improve women’s chances of becoming pregnant, a controversial new study has found.
Among those who drink irregularly a single glass is likely to increase the chances of saying yes to a legover. Legovers still being the way most children are conceived.