Umm, yes

Underwear revolution: how lingerie grew up and put women’s comfort first

There’s always been that division into comfortable and something of a display for the lads. Or, as is more likely, something to please the lady as she imagines the display.

The idea that underthings have only recently become comfortable is just nonsense.

An old but incorrect – the words don’t quite mean this even if there would be an association with the idea – division would be between underwear and lingerie. The first the functional stuff, the second the lacy bits.

Seems reasonable

Potential jurors hold “alarming” views about sexual violence, a major report into attitudes towards rape has revealed.

A survey commissioned by the End Violence Against Women Coalition found that a third of people in the UK think it isn’t usually rape if a woman is pressured into having sex but there is no physical violence.

Almost a quarter of the 4,000 people questioned in the Attitudes to Sexual Consent survey carried out by Yougov believed sex without consent in long-term relationships was usually not rape. Laws against rape in marriage have been in place since 1991.

The results came as Jeremy Corbyn warned that the country was facing a “rape crisis”, and as MPs welcomed a survivor of Rotherham’s child exploitation scandal to the Commons.

The report revealed a stark generational gap in attitudes – with more than a third of over-65s believing that in most cases sex without consent with your wife or partner was not rape, compared with just 16% of 16- to 24-year-olds.

We’ve not actually had laws against marital rape since 1991. What the Lords found was that the exception to rape – the general consent to conjugal bits given by the fact of marriage – wasn’t actually an exception which existed in law. But pendantry.

But that peoples’ attitude, beliefs about, something reflect what reality was when they were young and learning? The surprise here is what?

Interesting numbers

These examples are telling because they point to the importance of different social norms in mediating gendered preferences and behavior. They also introduce another piece in our puzzle: all the culturally recognized incidences of pre-modern transgender individuals mentioned above involve natal males who transition to female. In the DSM-5, prevalence rates of gender dysphoria are estimated at 0.005 percent to 0.014 percent of the population for natal males, and 0.002 percent to 0.003 percent for natal females. The higher prevalence of males exhibiting the condition is likely related to a higher percentage of male homosexuals worldwide (3 to 4 percent) as compared to lesbians (1 to 2 percent). While these rates are the subject of debate, the higher ratio of male homosexuals as compared to women is a consistent finding across surveys.

There’s a lot of noise about 0.05% of he population isn’t there?

Interesting

Rapist fathers should not have rights over their victims’ children

Presumably they don’t have the CSA after them to pay either?

Or doesn’t it work like that? We’re to create a class of fathers who must hand over the cash but have no other rights are we?

Seriously?

Australian rugby was plunged into embarrassment on Friday after it emerged that Adam Ashley-Cooper and Kurtley Beale were not considered for selection to face England because they invited three women back to their Newport hotel room a fortnight ago.

Consenting adults attempting to get laid is a no no these days?

Perhaps we should move back to the older hypocrisy which was that it was fine with the sort of woman who would and deeply scandalous with the sort who wouldn’t? Tho’, obviously, how scandalous is consent?

Presumably he appeared as a swan to them

Or a bull.

A South Korean cult leader was convicted on Thursday of the multiple rape of eight female followers – some of whom believed he was God – and jailed for 15 years.

Pastor Lee Jaerock’s victims were “unable to resist as they were subject to the accused’s absolute religious authority”, judge Chung Moon-sung told the Seoul Central District Court.

Community service among Johns

With the 2015 murder of Daria Pionko, a prostitute in the zone, Jenni carried a walkie-talkie in case she needed to call for help. Despite this, she was robbed and beaten by an acquaintance of one of her clients and she was once almost abducted.

“A guy in a car approached me as I was walking down the road. I saw rope and tape on the floor. He tried pulling me in. I was wrestling to get away.

“Men in cars, obviously looking for girls, stopped and chased him off.”

It’s the sort of thing which makes you think that sex slavery isn’t quite a thing. Not if the punters are chasing off would be abductors….

Affairs? On Grindr?

Pharmacist accused of murdering wife was having affairs on Grindr, court hears

That doesn’t sound quite right.

A pharmacist accused of murdering his wife had been cheating on her with men he met on the Grindr dating app, a court has been told.

Unlikely to be having anything as constant as an affair on Grindr, surely?

Which is worse?

Donald Trump played a “central role” in hush money payments to a porn star and Playboy model before the 2016 election, the Wall Street Journal reported.

According to the report Mr Trump worked closely with publisher David Pecker, using the National Enquirer magazine to pay off the women.

The president has previously denied involvement but the newspaper claimed he was closely engaged, and directed, the effort to pay the women – porn star Stormy Daniels and former Playboy model Karen McDougal – not to make their stories public.

Bloke fucks quite obviously adult and willing women. Bloke oppresses the intern? One is possibly the greater infidelity, the other would appear to be much more of a breach of modern mores – it’s all about power structures etc.

Missing the point a bit, no?

Congrats, Idris Elba: but next year, let’s have a less macho sexiest man alive
Caspar Salmon

Sigh, macho is just another word we use to describe that male sexiness.

Sue, there are indeed other tastes out there.

This can feel surprising in the era of the internet, when gay twink culture has fed into straight desire, with men such as Timothée Chalamet (age 22) hitting the scene. This sort of desire, which abstracts men from status up to a point, and privileges a gaze that is unafraid to objectify, is nowhere to be seen in the People list.

Seriously? A look, a desire even, which is by definition about boys not men is to be used a the standard by which men are judged sexy?

The idea that I would defend Jenni Murray

In normal times I’d not do so, she being the embodiment of all that I dislike about our current establishment and their views. However:

Jenni Murray has pulled out of a talk at Oxford University after LGBTQ+ students claimed that she is “transphobic” and attempted to “no platform” her.

As I understand it she says that tans women aren’t women in an important sense. They’ve not grown up with the experience of being female and thus are, whatever they are, female in a different manner from those who have.

Which seems an entirely reasonable position to take. Lived and learned experience is an important part of the shaping of a person, no?

Apparently 1 in 200 are paedophiles

The viewing of indecent images of children is so prevalent that people probably know someone within their circle who does it, Cressida Dick, the Metropolitan Police Commissioner said today.

Human society tends to be organised in over lapping groups of the 200 known to any one specific person. Thus if everyone knows one then incidence will be around that one in two hundred – 0.5%.

Which does seem extraordinarily high, about the same as the claimed incidence of trans, isn’t it?

If we include hebephiles, ephebephiles etc, then perhaps but actual paedophiles?

The law is what the law is

And that’s entirely fine. But there is something, well, something, about this:

A gay sauna has found itself in an equality row after asking a transgender man without a penis to leave their nude bath house.

The, nude bath house describes itself as “sex friendly” so, it’s that sort of gay bath house, not a bath house that happens to cater to a gay clientele. Which is, some might think, where gomadal arrangements become the important distinction. BTW, the place is only licenced for “men”.

The bit that really amuses:

The 26-year-old, whose identity is unknown, attempted to use the sauna with a friend on Monday night before another customer informed staff that “a woman was using the venue”.

With racism etc, it’s how other people feel that defines, not the person doing the doing. Under that definition that’s a woman therefore. Alternatively, if gender is self-defined then why isn’t racism?

Well done Zoe, well done

In talking about French Presidents Zoe Williams gives us this:

You would think it would be really easy to govern a country and have a high-functioning relationship, since all of those problems that regularly capsize a marriage – infidelity, addiction, debt, yoga – you wouldn’t have time for anyway, unless you were a leader from the 1970s.

Can anyone recall a French President who didn’t have the time for infidelity?

We’ve not heard from Nancy for a bit, have we?

The billionaire was at the centre of more lurid claims yesterday. The Sun on Sunday reported allegations that he had offered Nancy Dell’Olio £1 million to spend the night with him. The Italian lawyer, 57, who first came to attention for dating the former England manager Sven-Goran Eriksson, said that the alleged proposal made in 2010 at a nightclub left her feeling “shocked and humiliated”.

“Philip pawed at my wrist and told me, ‘If you come with me now to my apartment, this night will be worth a million’. He was tipsy, but I felt he wasn’t joking,” she said. “It was disgraceful. I have sex with who I want to, when I decide, for my pleasure.”

What are the odds on if she’d said yes the price dropping to £5? Sir Philip being a cultured man who knows his GBS*.

*Maybe, might just be the famous name the story has migrated to.

There’s a step being missed here

Free to parents, it claims to tackle what Dines calls the “public health crisis of the digital age”. She backs up her claims with hard facts and figures. For a start, a third of all young people under the age of 12 have seen pornography; about 20% of sexts are photos of girls under the age of 15; and 35% of all internet downloads are porn. Also, children have access to a mobile phone at earlier ages than they did five years ago. Today, an estimated 25% of six-year-olds in the UK use a mobile phone, and the average age in the US is 10. This means that large groups of young children are just a click or two away from free hardcore porn.

The missing bit is the proof that those numbers show that there’s a problem, whether in public health or anything else.

Over the long term we might in fact find that this is all terribly helpful. There was a time when all children – near all OK – were raised on a farm so any introduction to sex would have been when the sow went off to get covered*. At least the demos today are of the correct species. Often enough. At least there are fewer girls wondering why it’s not curly.

*There are, by some accounts, urban areas today where pubs, lipstick and a good night out serve much the same function, vide all those photos of gannin’ doon the toon.

Interesting but dangerous

Indian government minister MJ Akbar filed a defamation suit against one of at least 10 women accusing him of sexual harassment on Monday, calling her allegations false and malicious.

The lawsuit, a copy of which was reviewed by Reuters, names journalist Priya Ramani as the sole accused and says that she “intentionally put forward malicious, fabricated and salacious” allegations to harm his reputation.

Oscar Wilde made this potential mistake…..