If you had tried to understand, instead of calling me impressionable and discounting the validity of my gender expression, maybe we would still be talking. Maybe I wouldn’t have hidden my transness for more than two years to satisfy the implicit expectations of me not to be a boy.
It’s just one of those things, isn’t it? That people do expect women to be women. Actually, whatever ones’ views on trans-ness we do all still expect women to be women. That being what the vast majority are. So what’s with this implicit stuff?
It’s hard to hear that you are responsible for hurting someone. But, if you got this far, I’m going to give you a tip: instead of asking questions, take action to make people feel comfortable enough to be honest. Projecting your ideas of normality and coating them in a thick layer of “concern” achieves nothing.
At the end of the day, you took away my right to define myself and to decide when I would share that with other people.
This is how you pushed me away. Reflect and do better.
Apparently her aunt started asking “Why’s she dressing like a boy?”
This being unforgiveable. Sigh.
For that is rather to miss the point of language, the very thing that makes us human. The best theory yet about how it arose is so that we could gossip about those in our clan grouping, this being one of the things which reinforces the bonds of said clan and thus enables us to survive this harsh world.
Men who want to boost their sperm counts may want to swap their tight-fitting underpants for more roomy boxers which are better suited to keeping testicles cool, scientists say.
A major study into the impact of underwear on sperm quality found that men who favoured airy boxer shorts made significantly more sperm than those who tucked themselves into more restrictive items of underwear.
The reason something as sensitive and important to the very purpose of life as testicles are outside the body is?
Quite, that they work better at slightly lower than body temperature.
If they worked better at it then we’d be descended from those whose remained safely tucked away up where the ovaries sit and where they themselves start out. We’re not and they don’t.
The NHS must offer transgender patients awaiting transitioning treatment access to fertility services or it risks breaking the law, the health service has been warned by the country’s equality watchdog.
The Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) is threatening legal action if “outdated” NHS policies, which it says discriminate against the transgender community, are not changed urgently.
“Our laws and our values protect those who seek treatment for gender dysphoria,” Hilsenrath said. “This means that, where appropriate, treatment should be made available in order to ensure that access to health services is free of discrimination. A choice between treatment for gender dysphoria and the chance to start a family is not a real choice.”
You’re specifically insisting that we chop your nads out and at the same time we’ve got to protect your right to have children?
The removal and storage of eggs and sperm – a process known as gamete extraction – gives transgender people the option of having their own biological children after transitioning treatment.
Yup, that’s what is being said.
Dangerous liaisons: why syphilis and gonorrhoea have returned to haunt Britain
Clinic appointments fill up in minutes and babies are once again being born with syphilis – what is behind Britain’s sexual health crisis?
People are being insufficiently selective about who they stick it in – or who they allow to do so.
But what is ringing alarm bells is a rise in cases of gonorrhoea, up tenfold since 2008, and syphilis, an infection that had virtually been wiped out in Britain but is now running at levels not seen since the second world war. The rise is mainly among men who have sex with men, but not entirely. The Victorian spectre of babies born with syphilis is back, with three newborns infected by their pregnant mothers last year.
“When I started working in an STD clinic in 1988, syphilis had been eradicated in Britain. It took 18 months before I saw a single person with syphilis for the first time. Last week, we saw five or six in a day,” says French, who also works with the British Association of Sexual Health and HIV. “It’s the same with gonorrhoea; it became rather uncommon with the advent of HIV. And now it has become really common. Something really dramatic has happened.”
Yep, lack of selectivity.
When Charlamagne protested “it’s just fruit”, Khalifa doubled down on his assertions. “You gotta break it in pieces bro … gotta break the banana in half. I’m just trying to help you out, bro. If you’re in public, just break it into pieces.”
Khalifa’s comments haven’t gone down well on the internet, with a lot of people pointing out that being afraid that eating a banana makes you look “gay” is the very essence of toxic masculinity.
James Wilkie, assistant professor of marketing at University of Notre Dame, who co-authored the study, explains that women aren’t as sensitive about making appropriate choices because they’re not penalized in the same way that men are. “If anything,” says Wilkie, “a woman might get compliments if she orders a more manly drink at the bar.” We live in a culture which rewards acting in stereotypically ‘male’ ways and punishes ‘female’ behaviour. Sad as it may be, this extends to the manner in which you eat a banana.
It is possible that the rugmunching Ms. Mahdawi is unaware of the interest shown in the manner that heterosexual women eat a banana…..
Democrats are less inclined than Republicans to cheat on their spouses, according to researchers who matched voter records to accounts hacked from a US website that specialises in extramarital affairs.
The study of 80,000 voters in five US states found that Democrats used the Ashley Madison adultery website substantially less than Republicans, Libertarians, Greens and unaffiliated voters. Libertarians consistently ranked as the site’s most frequent clients.
The results highlight an apparent paradox where those with more conservative views and supposedly stricter attitudes towards sex seem happier to hop into bed with someone outside their relationship than more liberal types.
So, now, who divorces more often? Or, perhaps, is more likely to do so? For in one view we could argue that both adultery and divorce are reactions to monogamy…….
The disgraced Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein’s lawyer has claimed that his client was misquoted in an interview where he’s cited as admitting to having offered acting jobs in exchange for sex.
In a conversation, as reported by the Spectator, the 66-year-old producer defended his behavior as a widespread practice in the entertainment industry. He denied ever physically coercing women in his first interview since being accused by more than 75 women of sexual assault and misconduct.
“You were born rich and privileged and you were handsome,” he reportedly said to the journalist Taki Theodoracopulos, who is also his friend. “I was born poor, ugly, Jewish and had to fight all my life to get somewhere. You got lotsa girls, no girl looked at me until I made it big in Hollywood. Yes, I did offer them acting jobs in exchange for sex, but so did and still does everyone. But I never, ever forced myself on a single woman.”
Is offering an acting job in return for sex illegal? Should it be?
The Church of England called for the practice to be outlawed last year and this week “warmly welcomed” the government’s proposed ban. However, 351 of its UK churches are members of the Evangelical Alliance, an influential group with more than 4,000 members from different denominations. As part of its “resources for church leaders”, the group states that “homoerotic sexual activity without repentance” is an offence worthy of “church discipline” and that churches should welcome sexually active gay people, but only “in the expectation that they will come in due course to see the need to be transformed”.
It adds: “We welcome and support the work of those . . . who responsibly seek to help Christians who experience same-sex attraction. This help will involve counsel and support to live a chaste life and, as part of this process, some may seek and experience changes in the strength or direction of their same-sex attractions.”
The urge to sin exists, the struggle is not to give in to it.
Sure, one can disagree about what is a sin but that’s to miss the point. You don’t have to believe as they do but you really must let them believe as they do.
I think we’ll all agree that Tom Robinson is gay? That leather outfit for “Motorway” was a tad of a clue.
I think we all agree that Tom Robinson has married – a woman – and had children.
No, we don’t know the details of that sex life.
“a gay man who happens to be in love with a woman”
Hmm, sexuality – the expression of it at least – does seem to be malleable to outside influences such as, say, love. Amazing that really.
The man known as Nick, whose allegations sparked the VIP sex abuse scandal, was last night charged with inventing the claims and then fraudulently claiming £22,000 in compensation claims.
The 50-year-old – whose true identity can still not be revealed for legal reasons – will appear in court in September, after the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) charged him with 12 counts of perverting the course of justice and one count of fraud.
Prosecutors also allege that Nick created a fake witness called ‘Fred’ and sent police emails from a false account in an attempt to corroborate his claims.
But of course we must always believe accusers, no?
I think the correct construction is “always consider seriously accusations”
The government has decided that asking the question “Would you like to put your todger up this bloke’s bum” is legal and shall remain so. To ask “Would you like to stop putting your todger up this bloke’s bum?” should be illegal and is to be banned.
The not too distant past saw homosexual men – that was indeed the description then – prosecuted for the manner in which they had sex with other consenting adults. An outrage. That English law never made quite the same point about lesbian sex is, anecdotally, because Queen Victoria refused to believe such a thing could happen. Nice anecdote but.
We’ve now moved on and the world is a better place for it. Except, well, it’s possible to have more than the tiniest concern about the latest manifestation of this modern liberality. For we’ve now the government girding its loins to make gay conversion therapy illegal. The system used to be that BadThink about sex was illegal, the future system is going to be that BadThink about sex is illegal. It’s a pity that we don’t seem to have had – or if we have it’s been a vanishing moment – of actual liberality about sex inbetween.
A baby could become the first person without a legal mother if a transgender man wins a historic court battle.
Lawyers representing the parent told a judge that he had been biologically able to get pregnant and give birth but had legally become a man when the child was born.
The man wants to be identified as the child’s “father” or “parent” on a birth certificate, however a birth registrar told the man the law requires people who give birth to children to be registered as mothers.
I had a quick – and incomplete – think through this. And couldn’t come up with any reason why it is important that the state, or just the public register, records “mother” rather than parent.
Lots of tradition, but not really a current reason.
BTW, anyone who gives birth is a woman. But still can’t think of why “mother” must appear on the document.
The charity “sex for aid” scandal has been overblown, former International Development secretary Clare Short has said.
Ms Short said that the “hysterical response” to the coverage was “as though everyone working in development was morally disgusting, and everyone was sexually abusing everyone was way exaggerated and disproportionate”.
The – correct – statement than some men are, too many, is brushed away by he insistence that it’s all men who are dangerous to all women. That, if not actively, all men are at least potential rapists and society must be entirely changed.
When this is applied to one of their own they don’t like it, do they? It’s almost as if the corporal was right, they don’t like it up ’em.
Nic Chandler, 27, from Tennessee was born male but identifies gender neutral
Met Rachel Kouris, 26, a transgender woman, on a dating site
Then met Xander, a transgender man, through work and he joined them as trio
Trio share same king size bed and insist their relationship is very conventional
OK, whatever floats your boat.
However, these ARVs only helped the individual and communal bodies who got the drugs. And in the US, this largely meant that white gay men got the drugs early and often, while black gay America largely never got them. The inability to end HIV/Aids isn’t a failure of medicine, but a failure of racial capitalism.
Hiding this epidemic is a choice, and Mike Pence and Donald Trump have made it worse. Denial, stigma and shame don’t help. This crisis requires using treatment as prevention, increasing sexual education, and undoing the homophobic health disparities caused by racial capitalism in general and the apartheid-like US healthcare system in particular.
Apologies as it is necessary to be a tad crude here.
To avoid HIV as an epidemic – there are other infection routes but they’ll not cause an epidemic – it is necessary to abstain from two behaviours, sharing needles to inject and taking it up the bum without a condom being used.
Neither of these have anything to do with race or capitalism.
Steven W Thrasher is a PhD candidate in American studies at New York University. He contributed to the recently published book The Unfinished Queer Agenda After Marriage Equality and was formerly writer-at-large for Guardian US. Twitter @thrasherxy
Ah, we’ve a PhD thesis to complete and a campaigning book to write, career to launch….
A teenage girl falsely accused ex-boyfriend of drugging and raping her when he refused to rekindle their romance, a court heard.
Happens so rarely that we don’t need to take it into account when someone makes a claim in fact.
Now it would appear that the New Zealand immigration service has added “sex work” (as prostitution is increasingly described) to the list of “employment skills” for those wishing to migrate. According to information on Immigration NZ’s (INZ) website, prostitution appears on the “skilled employment” list, but not the “skill shortage” list.
A Heinlein point comes o mind. Only on Earth could there be a shortage of what every woman possess an infinite supply of.