Errm, OK, Zoe

This is female sexuality packaged up as a product geared to generate profit: capitalism with tits, basically.

In a society where sex and sexuality are still oriented from a sexist, capitalist perspective, it\’s almost normal then for women to place value on how they are viewed by men, simultaneously objectifying and undermining their own sexuality in the process, as Ariel Levy highlighted.

This viewpoint is now practically ubiquitous: many women\’s attitudes around sex stem from the profit-driven perspective and they see and describe their own sexual desire as just an adjunct to the male experience – just like that young woman at the party.

What\’s the answer to this? How can we teach young women to place value on their own pleasure and their own experience? How can we teach young men that mutual respect and appreciation, not to mention mutual consent, are the pre-requisites to good sex? How can we ensure that sex is seen as something healthy and positive and fun, and not just a means to make money or a way for women to win male validation?

I believe we need to challenge the old-fashioned views of male and female sexuality where sex is something to be obtained by men, from women; we need to reject the sexist and offensive imagery in porn and replace it with a more progressive view of sexuality; we need to oppose the commodification of sexuality and refuse to buy into it; and most importantly we need to properly educate young people about sex and relationships so that they learn the value of each other, as well as the pleasure they can share.

My only question here is how? I\’m rather of the impression that the current state of affairs (sorry!) is a result of the last attempt to replace the prevailing ethos with a more progressive view of sexuality.

4 thoughts on “Errm, OK, Zoe”

  1. Timmy you are as often proved, correct. Witness Zoe’s confession of her rape on her blog (why now Zoe? Numbers down?) and then read this and it gets worse. My own reckoning is that our little Girl is trying to get all clever and somewhat intellectual hence her cutting and pasting since, of course, she has no original thought worth having.

    This so called progressive view of sexuality is really a step backwards: the incessant chatter about sex, indeed even the fact that it pops up on CIF so often is part of the problem as is Zoe’s GCSE writing project, erm her book.

    If this is a step forward for women, something is rotten in the state of Denmark.

    Ms R

  2. Traditional Catholicism (you know, like they had in England for a thousand years) expected men and women to treat each other with respect. Hard to believe in that today, but puts forth the idea that God can program in three dimensions, and, all of a sudden, the Church that was once the heart of England is more believable than ever.

  3. Sex isn’t just ‘healthy, positive and fun’, it’s also complex. It can be emotional, social, political, and biological dynamite, it’s often the glue that binds relationships, it can a source of power over others – for women too – which is why there are no societies, and probably never have been, that don’t have explicit rules and unspoken codes regarding its expression. And it has always been a commodity; it’s just that the price has dropped, and what’s cheap isn’t valued. Until we as individuals and as a society treat it with the respect due any valuable and potentially dangerous attribute, we’ll have problems. Taliban-style repression is obviously not the answer, but neither is trivialisation or ignoring a million or so years of hard wiring.

  4. What nonsense. Sex isn’t always healthy, positive and fun. Sex can be dangerous, damaging and criminal. It all depends on the circumstances.

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