Essentially, writing enthusiastically about her highly enthusiastic sex life has left her bereft of what she actually wants now, an enthusiastic but rather more emotionally connected sex life:
However, I\’m at a point where I now accept I have a need to be fulfilled emotionally as well as physically with someone; I feel ready to be with someone special for the long-term. I\’m just not confident that is possible for me to achieve in the UK now; too much of my personal life has been on display and the English attitude towards sex is reflected in how men view and relate to me: awkwardly.
OK, great, good luck to her, but what the hell\’s this got to do with economics?
Well, Gary Becker said something decades ago about prostitution (no, I am most emphatically not comparing Zoe to a prostitute). That the biggest cost in the long run was that a woman who worked as a prostitute almost inevitably cremated her chances of marrying in the community where she had worked as one. Thus the observation that women who do work as such tend to work as such outside of the community they come from. This helps to explain quite a lot of the way in which tarts tend not to come from the areas they service….yes, there\’s some economic migration due to poverty and yes, there is also a small amount of slavery and imposed trafficking, but one major driver (which part is the most important is up to you) is that is is indeed possible to go somewhere else, be a prostitute, and then come back home with the money but without that destruction of reputation and life choices.
And this is the only way in which there is a connection with Zoe:
Refreshingly, most of the men I\’ve met there have never heard of my blog or book, so getting to know one of them on a more personal level offers up an equal starting point from which to learn about the other person – which makes for far more romantic possibilities down the line.
Quite, which was rather Becker\’s point.
Now whether Zoe\’s enjoyment of and retelling of her enthusiastic sex life ought to make men react that way, a way in which they don\’t when they haven\’t heard the stories, is another matter, entirely so, but that they do seems obvious….and sadly, the universe isn\’t quite constructed the way we\’d like it to be on all and every matter.
Amazing what economists can tell you about, isn\’t it? Why a writer might move continents to revitalise their love life?