Isn\’t it great that she has the choice, though? (I have found that this is what people tend to say at this point in the conversation.) Bollocks. What kind of a choice is that? If you choose, as I did, to stay at home, you do so knowing that you are losing your independence, that you are further reducing your future earning capability, and that you are by accident actively promoting the sexist suppression of women that you feel so strongly against. If you choose to go back to work full-time and fight the system, then you will have a constant battle in a world dominated by men, and will struggle to find the quality time to spend with your children, and if you choose the part-time route it is likely that you will struggle to find jobs that really satisfy you.
It\’s quite amazing that someone can reach their 30s without realising that this happens to everyone.
You know, that life is about making choices, paths taken and not taken.
You really can\’t have it all: whether it be a hands on Mum with a glittering fabuloso career or a hands on Dad with the glittering fabuloso career.
Please, stop whining about it.
Or, as I put it in the comments over there, one of the most privileged people on the planet (in the top 1% of global income, certainly, in the top 1% of income for all of the people who have ever lived almost certainly), healthy, with healthy kids, hubby, house and choices, wants to shout about how oppressed she is. Get over yourself love.
And at the suggestion of the Englishman in the comments, here is Ian Dury on the subject of opportunity costs.