Nope, don\’t get this at all

Adoption: giving due weight to birth parents\’ religious preferences

Biological parents should be able to have a say over religion – but finding a loving family must take precedence

If the child is so unimportant to you that you\’re going to fob off the raising of it onto some stranger, why are you able to detail how it should be raised?

5 thoughts on “Nope, don\’t get this at all”

  1. Maybe the parents are dead, and they have no living relatives or the grandparents are too frail and/or senile?

    Come on Timmy, have a heart.

    Tim adds: I agree that orphans is different: but the majority of adoptions do not involve orphans.

  2. If the child is so unimportant to you that you’re going to fob off the raising of it onto some stranger,

    Does that really account though for most adoptive decisions? How about a woman struggling with mental illness whose child was the result of being psychologically manipulated by some cad into a one-night stand and who has now disappeared off the face of the earth, and the mother in her saner moments fears what she might do to her baby if/when the black dog comes back again? How about a teenage girl, raised by a teenage mum herself, both abandoned by the fathers, deciding that her child should have the material security that her own upbringing lacked? How about a single woman who was raped, is fundamentally opposed to abortion, but also strongly in favour of children having two parents, and feeling that the best she can do is to give her child that stability and some childless couple that happiness? How about a father, say, struggling to beat a drug addiction, the child’s mother has died of a drug overdose, and the father in a depressive state fears for his ability to give the child an emotionally secure childhood?

    One could disagree with these hypothetical people’s decisions to give their children up for adoption. But they don’t strike me as the decision to give up a child because the child’s so unimportant to the parent, but rather as imperfect people making difficult decisions in less-than-pleasant situations.

  3. This has been the case in Northern Ireland for a few years now. It is appalling.

    Tracy,
    Your hypotheticals don’t affect Tim’s fundamental point: you want the child to turn out a certain way, you raise it.

  4. As Richard Dawkins has pointed out, the idea of a ‘Muslim’ child or a ‘Christian’ child is as stupid (and in this case reprehensible) as the idea of a ‘Keynesian’ or ‘Monetarist’ child.

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