In which I disagree with Bidisha

When contemplating marriage, I always take tips from small studies by universities in America\’s conservative heartland. A survey by Brigham Young University in Utah has shown that couples who abstain from sex before marriage rate their marriages as more rewarding than those who don\’t.

What a stupid idea. What if, on the wedding night, the other party turns out to be selfish, clueless, oafish and lazy?

Well, if sex with the person you\’ve just married is the only experience of sex you\’ve ever had how do you know whether they\’re selfish, clueless, oafish or lazy about matters sexual?

But more to the point, if the only way you\’re going to get sex is to get married, then of course you\’ll think that marriage is rewarding. Sex is, after all, (even bad sex) fun.

5 thoughts on “In which I disagree with Bidisha”

  1. “couples who abstain from sex before marriage rate their marriages as more rewarding than those who don’t.

    What a stupid idea.

    People who have had that experience say that they found it rewarding, but they must be lying because a Guardian journalist, who has lived her life differently, can’t possibly be wrong.

    This woman is a fool, as I’m sure you know.

  2. I’m surprised (irony alert) that a Guardianista thinks the only way you can deduce that someone may be selfish, clueless, oafish and lazy [in bed, she presumably means] is by going to bed with them.

  3. “I always take tips from small studies by universities in America’s conservative heartland.”

    So straight off he’s saying he’s opinionated and not basing his thoughts on any factual basis.

    I could easily say from small studies carried out in urban universities in the UK that students are more promiscuous than other singles and therefore universities should be shut down.

  4. The first sentence of the quote you provide manages to be toothache inducingly portentous, while also giving the impression that the author marries frequently.

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