Hoo, boy, has this bloke got the wrong end of the stick:

Today, internet dating has become more or less accepted as a way of forming relationships. There has been some criticism, but it has usually been of the functional and operational kind, regarding subscription costs or users providing false pictures or information. There has been little thought or comment on why matchmaking websites might be a bad thing per se.

Online matchmaking is premised on the notion of making rational choices. It is perhaps fitting that the language of economics and business has finally – in our late capitalist society – permeated the most irrational, the most human of all areas: the interpersonal.

Who you get to shag has always been a market. One in which most humans have to satisfact, true, but extending the reach of that market is a good thing, not bad.

For it will reduce the number who have to satisfact and increase the number satisfied.

More people, happier. The problem with this is?

6 thoughts on “Ahahahahaha”

  1. If that is how you are seeking personal happiness in life, you are doing it wrong.

    It was Hayek who observed that the rules which are needed for a successful economy (property, markets, contracts, and sticking to them) are very different from the rules we need to be happy in our personal lives (friendship, sympathy, forgiveness and so on).

    Hayek is smarter than you. Also wiser.

  2. Hayek is smarter than lots of people, it doesn’t change the fact that there is, and always has been, a market in mating.

  3. Well this appears to blithely miss the point – that no one is obliged to marry whom they meet on a dating site. It’s a way of deciding who to introduce to who.

    Also, a number of different cultures around the world have criticised the idea of grooms and brides choosing each other, on the exact basis that they would make these important decisions irrationally, while their parents or other guardians would make these decisions rationally.

  4. Mating is the human activity which is second to last in being like a market, after only war.

    If mating is a market, then everything is a market, and the term means nothing.

    Unless, that is, you are confusing “mating” in the sense of choosing a life mate, with prostitution. In that case it literally is a market, and you can find it on industrial estates up and down the country, missing only the striped awnings.

  5. Ben, you and John Walters both seem confused as to the purpose of on-line dating. It’s not about “choosing a life mate” or finding love. It’s about spending time with new people.

    Of course, the more new people you spend time with, the greater the chance you find someone you want to spend a lot of time with and they reciprocate. You may subsequently go on to fall in love and mate for life, but that’s not what the sites are offering and you no one picks a date with that as the expectation (except the bunny boilers, natch).

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