A very typical American feminist sort of piece.
Most adult human beings naturally desire sex. And despite the rightwing emphasis on concepts like \”purity\”, having sex does not actually make you a dirty or \”impure\” person.
She\’s missing the entire foundation of this female \”purity\” thing. It\’s a game theory thing about genes.
Just for the record, sex is indeed fun. I\’m not married and I\’m not a virgin. And no, I\’ve no religious beliefs that lead me to saying that consenting adults need a licence before they make the two backed beast.
But I do get a tad hot under the collar when those who would enlighten us on this subject miss the underlying currents of why society was like that.
Not all that long ago, certainly not much more than a generation ago, a man did not really know who was the father of \”his\” children. DNA testing really is a relatively new creation. Thus paternity was implied: if the woman who carried the child had only had sex with him then the child was indeed his. And virginity was proof of this concept (despite the obvious possibility of other partners after that virginity had been breached), that there were no other possible fathers.
Given that the point and purpose of this Darwinian life is to pass on genes to another generation this is really one of the most basic drives of a male human being. To ensure that those children he\’s expending his resources on really are his. That he\’s not raising cuckoos in the nest he\’s paying for.
Given this, this very basic fact that underlies much of the sexual dance, I think it\’s absolutely bloody amazing how far we\’ve come in those few short decades since the pill, legal abortion and DNA testing. Looking out at the world around us, the mix and match attitude people have to step children, the general agreement that sauce for goose is for gander etc, I am, as I say, quite amazed at how much those attitudes wired into society for tens of thousands, if not millions, of years have really rather just disappeared.
Indeed, I would say that what\’s happened to society about female sex and female sexuality in the past 50 years is proof perfect that we\’re a lot less caught by evolutionary biology than many seem to think. But the one thing I\’m not at all surprised about is that there is still this concept of female \”purity\” in a way that there isn\’t about male. Because while ev psych isn\’t, obviously, everything, it is still something.