This, I would argue, is a product of plain old sexism and misogyny.
Ms Bindel’s complaint is:
A number of lesbians I know who are on the butch side have been asked when they are transitioning. Being openly and proudly butch has now, as DeLaria says, become something that many in the lesbian community look down on.
At the same time, within gay male culture, being camp or in any way “feminine” is derided, whereas hyper masculinity is celebrated.
Kittens gambolling in the sunshine is evidence of misogyny to Our Jules I sometimes think.