Err, you what?

It’s a pernicious double standard. As a 2014 report from Stop Street Harassment notes, gay, bisexual and transgender men experience rates of street harassment between 17 and 20% higher than their male counterparts who aren’t LGBT.

I should know. A few summers ago, I walked home as I normally would from a gym in Chicago’s Lakeview neighborhood, which has a high concentration of LGBT residents and business owners. With headphones in, I enjoyed a breezy afternoon stroll down Broadway Street, the wind drying my sweaty brow, soaked shirt and gym shorts. Approaching the last few blocks of my journey home, I heard loud jeers and laughs from three men walking behind me.

“Man, look at that ass,” one man said to the others, as if I wasn’t present and listening to his remarks. “Wonder if he’ll let me get a bite of that.”

I thought if I ignored them and just listened to my music, they’d eventually stop. But they kept walking behind me, they kept discussing what they’d like to do with my hindquarters with or without my consent, my whole way home. As I arrived on my block, I suddenly realized that hardly anyone else was in an earshot, and started to wonder if they really wouldn’t stop. So I quickly shuffled to my buzzer gate, slammed it behind me, and unlocked my building’s double doors in haste, rushing inside for a buffer between myself and the men on the outside. They laughed at my trepidation as they continued down the street.

Umm, presumably gay or bi- men whoop at the buns on a male gym bunny. And this is the patriarchy?

It’s time to have more of a conversation about how the misogyny and patriarchy imbued in rape culture targets gay and gender non-conforming men

Apparently so.

17 thoughts on “Err, you what?”

  1. By Derrick Clifton

    Who he?

    A queer, black, gender non-binary, urban-raised individual from Chicago, Clifton is a master’s candidate at the Medill School of Journalism at Northwestern University.

    I hear Rolling Stone has a vacancy…

    “Man, look at that ass,” one man said to the others, as if I wasn’t present and listening to his remarks. “Wonder if he’ll let me get a bite of that.”

    shitthatmostdefinitelydidnthappen.txt

    So I quickly shuffled to my buzzer gate, slammed it behind me, and unlocked my building’s double doors in haste, rushing inside for a buffer between myself and the men on the outside. They laughed at my trepidation as they continued down the street.

    It’s time to have more of a conversation about how the misogyny and patriarchy imbued in rape culture targets gay and gender non-conforming men

    Nah.

  2. “It’s time to have more of a conversation about how the misogyny and patriarchy imbued in rape culture targets gay and gender non-conforming men”

    Maybe it’s because I’ve spent the afternoon drinking but I have no fucking idea what that means.

  3. So Much For Subtlety

    Dongguan John – “Maybe it’s because I’ve spent the afternoon drinking but I have no fucking idea what that means.”

    It means that it is your fault that three or four Gay men fancy another Gay man and are willing to say so in public.

    Meh

  4. This is one of several posts on here today that make me want to get out and measure up Miller Towers for a few bundles of razorwire.

  5. I wonder which ‘community’ these men came from. Whichever one it is, their sins are automatically assumed by the White Patriarchy.

  6. How very girlish of him.
    Recieves compliment from non-approved source.
    Desperate to let everyone know that a compliment was received.
    Complains loudly to advertise the fact.

  7. Maybe black gay men like a big booty too.

    It’s also worth noting that “a few summers ago” may imply that he’s not exactly deluged with street harrassment.

  8. So Much For Subtlety

    john miller – “This is one of several posts on here today that make me want to get out and measure up Miller Towers for a few bundles of razorwire.”

    As I have said before, ISIS is not looking like the most stupid choice out there.

    Ian B – “It’s also worth noting that “a few summers ago” may imply that he’s not exactly deluged with street harrassment.”

    It is a lovely example of the humblebrag. Because he is implying they were not Gay. He is just so damn sexy, in his sweaty shirt, coming from the gym, that they could not restrain themselves.

    I am willing to bet it did not happen. Gay men don’t talk like that in my experience. I am willing to bet this is lifted from the opening scene of pretty much every Gay porn film ever made.

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