This is a fair enough question actually

Was it planned? There’s something so gothic about being asked if your baby is wanted. Clearly the only response to this is, “No, so I’ll put it in the recycling bin along with the other unsolicited junk mail.”


As well as my two children, I’ve had the odd abortion and miscarriage, so this is not my first time on the pregnancy rodeo.

Given that one did, voluntarily, get put out for the recycling bin it seems like a fair enough question actually.

20 thoughts on “This is a fair enough question actually”

  1. We don’t know why the abortion. it could have been a badly damaged foetus which the mother could not bear to bring to term. That’s horrible position for the mother to be in, and as the father of a Down’s syndrome child not one I envy anyone. Having said that, this sort of caricature of a post-feminist whiner deserves every negative comment it may get.

  2. “I’ve had the odd abortion”

    I’m pro-choice, but Christ almighty, can you make it sound a bit less flippant? Did she lose count or something?

  3. Don’t know about your use of english, but ” I’ve had the odd abortion and miscarriage..” would imply, in mine,”exactly how many I can’t be bothered about recalling”. Obviously an example of dedicated & responsible motherhood.we have here

  4. @Matthew L – Whilst I agree that not having children until you can look after them is a good thing there are many ways to prevent pregnancy in this modern world we live in… Abortion should not be in the top 10 ways of “being responsible”…

  5. I’ve seen worse. I recall reading a pro-abortion article (in the 70s perhaps), that argued forcefully that a woman had no obligations to a foetus. It was described as “that thing that has invaded her body”.
    Only in the rare case of rape causing pregnancy could that apply. And that’s still not the baby’s fault.

  6. What would you think if you were one of her children and you read her article when you were older? Would you still love, respect etc your mother?

    I saved this comment on a 2015 article on finance in the Guardian which I very much liked

    “When the Guardian does things well, it does them very well.
    But for every article like this, there are several dozen columns by Jessica Valenti”

  7. “What would you think if you were one of her children and you read her article when you were older? Would you still love, respect etc your mother?”
    If you discover that your mother is pro-choice, then you know for sure that you were chosen.

  8. What right has a woman who has previously aborted a pregnancy to be offended by the question “so, do you plan to abort this one?”

  9. The sheer hypocrisy of someone who has previously liked an unborn child, dismissing it as a collection of cells, then demanding to be treated sensitively because she’s decided to keep this one. And to talk about this collection of cells as “my unborn child”

  10. @Kevin Lohse

    One of the things that abortion campaigners keep very quiet about is how terribly bad we are at accurate diagnosis of the unborn.

    I have friends with a small girl with a heart defect. They were told it was incompatible with life, and put under tremendous pressure to abort – in reality, although she had to have a major operation just after birth, she looks likely to have an almost totally normal life.
    It’s become apparent that the consultants dealing with her had no real idea what would happen, as 99% of babies with her condition are just aborted.
    I can think of at least two people I know (one now in her 20s) whose parents were told they had major problems (and pressured to abort) only for them to be born completely healthy.

    I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a false positive rate of anything up to 50% on these “diagnosis”, and I wonder how many grieving mothers have actually lost health babies because of this culture of aborting any baby that may have a defect in the NHS.

  11. theProle, indeed. My cousin was born with severe heart defects and my aunt and uncle were told she wouldn’t live past the age of 15. Two major hear surgeries before the aged of 8, one to untangle her twisted aorta and one valve replacement. She had a full transplant at age 22. She lived a full life, was married until her heart finally gave out 8 years ago at age 41.

  12. no idea why the random link to Tim Newman in that post above – presumably fat fingers and small phones).

    I’ve invented a device which makes people do that. It seems to be working.

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