There’s a certain truth to this:
More than a third of all pornography watched in New Zealand depicts non-consensual sexual activity, a study by the chief censor has found, in the first report of its kind into the country’s sexual viewing habits.
Censor David Shanks said the findings were important because, increasingly, young people were using the internet as their first and primary tool to learn about sex – and many applied what they had seen to their own sex lives. And while adults usually had the experience to treat porn for what it was – fantasy – younger viewers did not.
He said: “For young people, or people inclined to coercion, the repeated theme of ‘no’ becoming ‘yes’ could very easily be problematic.”
“Often the videos with this content would start with a reluctant partner, usually the female, who starts out saying ‘no’ to sex but whose initial resistance is overcome through insistence and subtle pressure by the male. The actress is then portrayed as enjoying the sexual contact – female pleasure was notable in 99% of the videos,” Shanks said.
Obviously, not the she said no but if she’s raped she’ll enjoy it idea.
But that it’s women who make the choice of sex or not, with whom or not. That it’s men having to do the impressing to get into that bed. That’s pretty much how it does work, yes.
It’s an obvious outcome of the basic biology here, that pig and chicken deciding what to have for breakfast. The chicken’s interested in eggs but the pigs committed to the ham idea. So with human fertility and thus the general difference in the who gets to decide and when.
As usual, the underlying problem here is that the people trying to define these rules don’t seem to have met many humans.