An amusing assertion

The sex/power divide does something else as well: it helps to protect women’s experience of their own sexuality from the fact of endemic exploitation. It says that, even in a world where men use sex as a weapon against women,

When we talk about sex – the full consent kind – we do generally note that it’s men who propose, women who dispose.

That is, it’s the women who hold the power over men where sex is concerned. Odd that feminists – or perhaps this feminist – don’t seem to know that. Possibly even that the ignorance induced confusion is what determines the political views?

The same question applies whenever sex is turned into a transaction: what does “yes” even mean? When a man pays a woman to have sex with him, or a woman is paid to have sex on camera for the purposes of pornography, what does “yes” even mean if saying “no” would stop her from affording rent or eating a meal?

It means the woman has looked at the choices reality is offering and made a decision. In exactly the same manner that a gong diver makes the decision about whether to go to work that day or not. Actually, in the same manner that anyone decides whether to go to work or not. Ms. Ditum is being aided in paying her rent by writing for The Observer. We do though have to assume that Ms. Ditum did so voluntarily.

22 thoughts on “An amusing assertion”

  1. From the article :

    we can all tell, via myriad cues of context and non-verbal negotiation, when someone is taking a gentle pass on what we’re proposing.

    Oh, can we? That’s good.

    I guess all the socially awkward people are just putting it on then.

    Typical Grauniad. “this is how i am, so this is how everyone is.”

  2. Women have sex for two reasons. Firstly they fancy the guy, secondly because the guy has something they want. The feminist position is that women should never ever trade sex. The implication is that women should have lots of sex with men they have the hots for and be given everything they want for free. Nice try, sister.

  3. what does “yes” even mean if saying “no” would stop her from affording rent or eating a meal?

    Why? Is she living in the worker’s paradise of Cuba or something?

  4. Bloke in North Dorset

    OT

    Gosh, who could have seen this coming:

    A 23-year-old woman who is taking legal action against an NHS gender clinic says she should have been challenged more by medical staff over her decision to transition to a male as a teenager.

    A judge gave the go-ahead this week for a full hearing of the case against the Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust.

    Lawyers will argue children cannot give informed consent to treatment delaying puberty or helping them to transition.

  5. Thing that gets me is women who write this sort of crap seem to have zero experience of their subject matter. Paying for food or the rent are way down the list of priorities for girls in the sex industry. They expect meals to be bought for them, preferably in expensive restaurants, & that they’re asked to pay rent is virtually a personal insult. Their priorities are the latest iPhone, the hairdressers, the nail bar & leaving clothes shops heavily laden. They expect life to be one long vacation, Getting up when they feel like it to spend the day chatting or messaging with their friends or watching YouTube music videos & playing CandyCrush. They discovered in their teens that men would give them what they want & they’ve made a career of it. The downside being that they’ve underestimated how many men are up for playing their part in the game, so eating’s irregular & they need to grep somebody else’s wifi.
    Film actresses are virtually the same people but occasionally have a script to learn.
    As are female writers for the Guardian, Salon etc. Although generally shorter in the looks department but a greater sense of entitlement.

  6. The Meissen Bison

    It helps to protect women’s experience of their own sexuality from the fact of endemic exploitation.

    I’m blowed if I know what this means?

  7. Well, the women who are attractive enough to be offered money for sex but want to turn it down would somehow just have to manage in the same way that the many less fortunate women and 99.9% of men have to.

    Those who are forever banging on about women having control of their own lives are curiously keen to take it away from them when they make the “wrong” decisions.

  8. Women who write in the Guardian are all too weak and stupid to decide whether to have sex or not so just do whatever is suggested to them apparently. Best we ignore them as non-adults.

  9. From a TV show… Jewish wife. ‘Men are like floor tiles. If you treat them right in the beginning and look after them, you can walk over them your entire life.’

  10. It says that, even in a world where men use sex as a weapon against women,

    Men who ‘use sex as a weapon’ are called ‘rapists’ and they are, thankfully pretty rare – if not rare enough.

    Women who use sex as a weapon are called ‘wives’.

  11. The Meissen Bison
    March 1, 2020 at 12:07 pm

    It helps to protect women’s experience of their own sexuality from the fact of endemic exploitation.

    I’m blowed if I know what this means?

    It honestly sounds like she’s saying ‘The Patriarchy’ and Victorian sexual mores are necessary to protect women from having to make choices they don’t want to make.

    And if that prevents women from making choices they want to make – that’s fine, as long as those were choices that author disagreed with.

  12. John B, when I first heard that it was ‘If you lay them properly..’

    Although many ladies prefer tongue and groove.

  13. @BiND

    A judge has ruled 16 year olds are children with insufficient maturity to be responsible for their actions and decisions

    He’s effectively raised the age of criminal responsibility to 16

    Meanwhile, SNP allows them to vote in elections and Labour want same in rest of UK

    @TMB

    It’s Left word salad which can mean whatever Left view reader wants; like Horoscopes

    @Gamecock

    “The BBC, Guardian and State – How to Gain Employment” is a core subject on every grievance studies degree

    @JS

    +1 Like Grid Girls. Cheerleaders soon?

  14. Thanx for the concern, Jim, but Valencia not the Costa Fortuna. The only thing I’m suffering from today’s a hangover.

  15. @BiND

    More on TG “experiments”

    Bill to curb radical medical tests on minors fails
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Nr0Fuwh9BQ

    A “fad” – yep, I’ve being saying that for a few years: BBC & Gov etc making children think it’s “cool & trendy to be LGBT”, be against it and you’re an evil bigot who must be ostracised/de-platformed/jailed

    Salem?

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