Transgender and nonbinary people are constantly adjusting and revolving our lives around the preferences and feelings of cisgender people, not because we want to do that but because there aren’t enough hours in the day to fight every battle and not enough rights to guarantee our safety.
Because that’s what society is. Curbing our own enthusiasms in order not to confront those of others.
Sure, there are limits to how much others can impose upon us but there are also – and this is what “society” means – curbs on how much we can upon others. You wanna wear a frock? Go for it, as with yarmulka, turban or three piece suit. Identify as female? Sure, and we’ll march right with you to defend your right to do so. But as with Mill the fist and the nose there are indeed limits. Which does indeed mean that you, as with every other member of the society, are adjusting lives to fit around the preferences and feelings of the other people in that society.
Welcome to equality, folks!