Sexuality should never be a source of shame
Of course it can and should be. What changes is which expressions of it are considered shameful.
Harvey W – not his full name in order to protect – didn’t consider tossing off into a pot plant shameful when he probably should have as the compensation bill is showing.
Being gay? Sure, no shame in that these days. The Rev Dodgson’s interest in little girls would have him locked up these days, just for having the piccies, and Epstein’s ephebophilia would have been largely legal in the UK and entirely so in Portugal.
That is, fashions change in shame even if the underlying sexuality is always with us.