Not really Freddie, no

I’m Being Forced to Go Abroad to Give Birth

Forced is a bit strong there. Have decided to is closer, don’t you think?

The case moved smoothly to the High Court. Everyone involved, whether on our side or the government’s, seemed to agree on at least one point: This was an important test case, necessitated by an apparent contradiction in several English laws. One, from 2004, said that I was legally male, a fact no one was disputing. Yet, since 1977, common law has also defined ‘motherhood’ as “being proved demonstrably by parturition.” In other words, whoever gives birth is the child’s ‘mother’ and cannot be anything else.

Seems a reasonable read on reality, yes.

One of the other contributors was a fellow trans dad, and his testimony immediately jumped out. Benjamin (a pseudonym) explained how he’d traveled from his home country, Germany, to Sweden to give birth in 2019. If he’d given birth in Germany, he would have had to register on the birth certificate as ‘mother’ and under his deadname. But in Sweden, thanks to a court case brought by a different trans dad, trans parents are recognised as their legal gender on their children’s birth certificates: There, trans dads are listed as ‘father’ whether or not they are the birthing parent.

The Transgender Europe report said that “Benjamin’s baby was

automatically granted the correct birth certificate” by Swedish authorities. It explained that the family had not encountered any administrative problems back home in Germany either. “This little paper [birth certificate] can make such a big difference!” Benjamin said.

When I read that, I knew I needed to give birth to my second child in Sweden, too, so that they could grow up with official documents that reflect and respect their reality.

Well, yes, all seems reasonable too.

In fact, the only thing which seems to differ here at all is the definition of “reality”. Functional womb, uterus, giving birth through a vagina, we might even go with your fantasy that you’re male with that cute little moustache Freddie – but you’re definitely and definitively a mother.

One way we can prove this is that no actual male would give a shit about all of this.

18 thoughts on “Not really Freddie, no”

  1. But in Sweden, thanks to a court case brought by a different trans dad, trans parents are recognised as their legal gender on their children’s birth certificates: There, trans dads are listed as ‘father’ whether or not they are the birthing parent.

    Lol, Sweden.

  2. I needed to give birth to my second child in Sweden, too, so that they (sic) could grow up with official documents that reflect and respect their reality.

    She means: “that respect MY reality”, of course.

  3. To slightly adapt a comment from an entirely different context to this one:

    When your world view conflicts with reality, it is not reality that is at fault.

  4. This was all sorted ages ago when womb renting became technically possible. The person whose womb you emerge from is your mother. Full Stop. The person who (is claimed to have) provided the sperm is the father. Full. Stop. That’s why the egg provider or the sperm provider’s partner has to adopt the baby if the womb the baby emerged from has only lent the use of the womb.

  5. The person whose womb you emerge from is your mother.

    That I didn’t know. I thought genetically/biologically the egg provider would be the mother. I hadn’t considered womb rentals.

    But that doesn’t matter so much in this case, since Freddie’s both the egg and womb provider, I think. So the kid is down as having two fathers? Or is the sperm donor unknown?

  6. I’ll say it again. Organizing society around the delusions of mentally unsound people is a terrible idea. And that is what old Freddie, here, wants to do.

  7. Tim – spot on as usual. I got halfway through the quoted article and thought ‘I don’t give a shit’. Made it to the end and reading your closing line gave me a proper chuckle. Well done.

  8. A relative of a friend of the family (there, that’s safe enough) had a similar problem unrelated to Transgenistria. Married and wanting children, she was diagnosed as non ovulating. So the husband conceived in a test tube with an egg donor, and the embryo(s) was transplanted in the wife.
    When they started divorce proceedings he claimed that she was not the mother so had no rights to custody of her children (fraternal twins) or claim to child support.
    She did win, on appeal.

  9. Organizing society around the delusions of mentally unsound people is a terrible idea.

    Very much this. The word ‘gender’ needs to be excised from legal and medical documents. As far as healthcare and the law is concerned, there should be biological sex and nothing else.

    The demented may continue to claim they are any one of a million genders.

    My sympathies to the children of this deranged woman.

  10. “One way we can prove this is that no actual male would give a shit about all of this.”

    That is pure gold right there.

  11. It always saddens me to see the level of importance people attach to what is written by the government on a piece of paper.

    I mean, gays were screaming for the ‘right’ to get a little piece of paper too – and look what that got them.

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