The sad thing is, we were actually getting somewhere in the 1990s, in tearing down the idea of any essential difference between men and women’s sex drive or agency.
It’s an interesting concept, certainly. Possibly not one that those who have actually met many human beings would support but an idea for all that.
But it was also original, running directly counter to the dominant narrative: this was the high watermark of ladette-ism, and the fundamental question of western culture in its most general sense was, why should women be seen as the gatekeepers of sex? Why should “slut” be an insult, why should chastity – or at least selectiveness – be considered feminine virtues, why shouldn’t women pursue their own sexual destiny?
Why selectiveness is not pursuing one’s own destiny is left unsaid. So also the insistence that this is all a western idea seems odd.
But if we’ve not got this problem with incels and all the rest, then perhaps that original hope of their being no difference in urges might be the problem?