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Ain’t this one for the ages

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 months and I’ve never been happier. We’ve got loads in common and he’s driven, funny and kind; he’s my absolute best friend – not to mention the fact he is gorgeous. The problem, however, is that I don’t feel very sexually driven any more. Before him, I had never had a real relationship, just “situationships” where I was being treated pretty badly by men but I was horny and excited to have sex with them. I don’t feel that with my boyfriend, though. We do still have sex but it’s not on a regular basis because I’d rather just relax with him, or be kissing, cuddling, talking or sleeping. I just can’t really be bothered with sex. When we do have intercourse, while it is enjoyable, I always want it over quite quickly. I really can’t see myself being very sexual with anyone once I’m in a relationship with them. I truly believe he is my soulmate and I don’t want this to be something that can ruin the relationship. It doesn’t seem to bother him too much (yet) – I think he mostly cares about spending quality time with me. But I can’t help but think there’s something wrong with me – or us. Is there anything I can do?

When a girl likes the bad boys what is she to do when she finds a keeper?

12 thoughts on “Ain’t this one for the ages”

  1. When a girl likes the bad boys what is she to do when she finds a keeper?

    Make his life a misery, dump him for the next bad boy that makes her fanny twitch and then blame him for the outcome.

    …as old as time. Red flags exist for a reason.

  2. She is a loony she has to chose between
    a) having sex when she doesn’t want to
    b) having good sex and being badly treated.
    I feel sorry for her.

  3. My advice would be to swap him for a Spanish boyfriend. I’m reliably informed it doesn’t take long. In fact she might not even notice.

  4. Help! I don’t exist, I’ve been dreamed up by a twenty-something female writer to make a few quid from The Guardian. She’s just using me to raise a pseudo-political point about female desire, and to get the daft neologism “situationship” into an article. I feel exploited and used. What can I do?

  5. JG: I was thinking just the same about another young lady in the news recently. The keeper blokes will run a mile as she’ll always crave the walk on the wild side.

  6. How long until this worthless rag goes bust?

    The mistake conservatives make about media is that it should make money. Lefties realise the profit is in the propaganda and so happily subsidise the various delivery mechanisms.

  7. Bloke in the Fourth Reich

    Given the endless cash poured into it by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation probably never.

  8. Women seek, first and foremost, a long-term partner to pairbond with. For this long-term relationship they seek a high-ranked man in the dominance hierarchy as a primary consideration, and reliability as a secondary consideration. Secondly, women seek short-term relationships with men of higher rank in the dominance hierarchy than their long-term partner.

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