Polyamory (having multiple partners at once consensually) and open relationships (where couples pursue other sexual relationships but tend to stay emotionally connected to just each other) aren’t anything new. The anarchist revolutionary Emma Goldman advocated for “free love” in place of “that poor little State and Church-begotten weed, marriage” in the 1910s, while many in the queer community practiced open relationships long before “polycule” became a TikTok buzzword.
Yet if you say that Teh Gayers tend to be more promiscuous, on average, than Teh Heteros you can be accused of homophobia. That it’s factually true among male gays to be so – on average of course – while less so for lesbians doesn’t seem to matter. Or perhaps it’s that because poly is an acceptable work while promiscuous is not then it’s OK to admit it using one word and not t’other.
Another word redefined? Surely “amore” is the root of “amory” and we what’s amore.
Shurely it is defined as having sexual fantasies about Tuscany based lady Guardian columnists.
When Sara Kragness’s partner Kadence Porter started dating a new person, they weren’t breaking any rules
This reads like the opening paragraph to one of Philip K Dick’s minor works about the inevitable dystopian future.
But when Kragness struggled to make an extracurricular connection of her own, she began to feel jealous of Porter’s budding relationship.
Rarely is the question asked: how ugly is this woman? Actually, the Guardian helpfully includes a photo, and they both look like bridge trolls of indeterminate gender.
Things worsened. The couple spent less time together, avoided talking and slept in different bedrooms. At a family wedding, the bubbling drama boiled over
Fucking other people didn’t strengthen their relationship. News at 10.
The anarchist revolutionary Emma Goldman advocated for “free love” in place of “that poor little State and Church-begotten weed, marriage” in the 1910s,
109 countries, you say, and never their fault?
But Covid changed conceptions of love and intimacy on a wider scale.
Did it?
This year saw the release of More, a memoir by Molly Roden Winter, in which the white, upper-class Brooklyn mom recounts juggling polyamory with parenting.
Did the Mother of the Year awards arrive in the post, or
For now, the couple – who are getting ready to celebrate their sixth anniversary – describe themselves as “monogamish”. They’re not actively pursuing sexual relationships with other people, but they might in the future.
“No, it’s fine. We’re good.” – Other People.
It can feel like everyone’s open now – according to a recent Match study, one-third of respondents had experimented with consensual non-monogamy.
How very different from the home life of our own dear King!
Anyway, the purpose of this article is the same purpose the celebrated murderess Emma Goldman had in mind. It’s to promote something that will hurt you, and undermine your society.
You learn quickly, I hope, when in childhood other children try to persuade you to do something foolish and dangerous for their dark, psychotic amusement. Many adults never learn, and will do the grown up equivalent of running through traffic because another adult with a PhD told them to.
Andrew C – I was reading this article and thinking to myself,
“That’s a whore, eh?”
Apologies, I meant Andrew Again.
Polyamory seems to be the in thing amongst the cool kids in California, so I’d expect that the chattering classes over here to pick it up in the next few years.
As with all attempts to redefine family, the wealthy can make it work to some degree, but it’ll be disastrous for the poor.
Incredible logic:
1. Gays used to be oppressed
2. Oppressed people are holy (cf. blacks)
3. Gays
are promiscuouspractice polyamory4. Therefore polyamory is holy
they both look like bridge trolls of indeterminate gender
They ALL look like bridge trolls of indeterminate gender.
Andrew M-
Saw whatshisname Williamson guy say a new trend is Polyamory Solo. Used by fuckbois eschewing the relationship and therefore getting cucked part.
This year saw the release of More, a memoir by Molly Roden Winter, in which the white, upper-class Brooklyn mom recounts juggling polyamory with parenting.
And in the words of Molly herself;-
I eventually took on the Freedom Project for myself. This meant I began to pay attention to my truest self, the one that exists apart from my role as a mother. For me, a part of this was allowing myself to be a sexual person. A bigger part was starting therapy. But I also learned to play guitar. I carved out time to sustain meaningful friendships. I meditated. I moved my body in forms of exercise I found challenging and fun (No prizes for guessing). I wrote about my life.
She sounds nice – no mention of the kids though.
In my day this was called “shagging around”.
“The anarchist revolutionary Emma Goldman advocated for “free love” in place of “that poor little State and Church-begotten weed, marriage” in the 1910s”
Er. Yeah. We know. The decline of Western civilization started at its height. That’s how decline works.
I don’t care what anyone says about him. Steve’s writing brightens this blog.
‘Polyamory Solo’
Is that the new cool term for w*nker?
Small dissent:
“Yet if you say that Teh Gayers tend to be more promiscuous, on average, than Teh Heteros you can be accused of homophobia.”
I think the distinction is more like, guys are more promiscuous than girls.
Guys will take their pleasure from a knothole if the tree stays still long enough. In a straight relationship, we’ve typically been limited by our women, who don’t seem to need the twice-daily that we guys seem to long for.
Now combine two guys, without the limits set by a woman. Kids in a candy store.
“Polyamory Solo.
Is that the new cool term for w*nker?”
Don’t knock masturbation. At least it’s sex with somebody you love.
Woody Allen
«having multiple partners at once consensually»
This sounds perfectly horrid and evokes an image of women trying to park their SUVs at Waitrose.
ZT, I don’t even care what I say about him: agreed.
People can live the sex lives they want.
As long as it harms nobody. That is liberty and freedom.