Janet Worstall RIP
Please pray for the repose of the soul of Janet Worstall
who died recently. Her Requiem Mass will be offered on
Tuesday the 17th of March at 2pm. We offer our prayerful
support to her family and pray that her soul and those of
all the faithful departed through the mercy of God may
rest in peace.
By the time it happened it was a release. Given that Griffiths – the family line she took many characteristics from – Turnbulls – her maiden name – and Worstalls never do anything by halves she had been suffering from two – count ’em, two – dementias for some years now. When diagnosed she feared that they would entirely wipe her out before the body completely failed. That didn’t happen, the body went first as she wished. But housebound for some years, bedbound for the past 6 months at least, in a care home the last few months.
Of course there was decline. She asked, in her final weeks, where Mike – her husband of 70 odd years – was and was told that he’d died 7 years before. “Well, if he’s going to do something like that then what’s the point of him?” Which is, well, you know, a question assembled philosophers have been trying to answer for many millennia now.
A long life – she was 92 – well lived, children, great grandchildren and all. Trucked around the world as a naval wife, a teacher of English as a foreign language when we’d all left home. A good time had by all. Vale.
She was always grateful for one grand thing, that she was spared the pain of having to bury any of her children, something that afflicts so much of humanity – and happened to a close friend – and near all until just recently. Her father was a GP in Birmingham and she saw, first hand, what happened in the slums pre-war and heard much more about it. Some of his short stories have just surfaced and one about a GP pootling off after having given a diptheria stricken kid a tracheotomy – in pre-antibiotic times – as the only possible treatment shocks by current standards.
I should, perhaps, say more about Mother being gone but that, in reality, happened a couple of years back. That’s thus just an accepted fact, not a raw wound any more.
They say you only become a man when your father dies. That wasn’t quite it for me. Naval father, often gone in childhood etc. But now? Yes. And it’s becuase of something most might well consider odd. Perhaps a flaw in my character. But I’ve lived in many places – countries as well as different places within them. And I’ve never considered any of them “home”. Whether rentals or owned. That was always that house of my parents in Bath – it’s been the one constant in that portion of life since gaining memory as a toddler. Whereever I was, whatever was happening, I always knew that if it went pie shaped there was an attic I could retreat into and then plot a way out back into the real world. Had to do it once, for a month, too.
Now that – at the speed of the legal system – will be gone. Mother went some time ago now that security of home has as well. I have to start pretending to be an adult now, at 62. Can’t say I’m liking it very much.