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Oh, delightful

Or, you know, not perhaps, and yet. A big Only Fans star, making a fortune (a McClaren when only 21 is a fortune). And:

He’s had guys who message him through OnlyFans every day for over two years, guys who tell him they’ve just put their kids to bed, that their wives are in the other room. Sometimes he feels bad for them; knows they’re probably lonely and sad. But that’s the game, right?
CJ gets it, because he does the same thing—the vast majority of his own social interaction is mediated through the internet too. He’s only had one serious girlfriend, and that was long distance. He told me he’s not good at talking to strangers face-to-face. He’s not used to doing it that way. Instead, CJ subscribes to other OnlyFans creators, and sometimes messages with them, even though he knows he’s probably not messaging the actual person.
“I know in the back of my head that I’m talking to some middle-aged man” at a subcontracted agency, CJ told me. But he’s okay with buying into the fantasy. Yes, when he messages these people it’s more for companionship than sex—but in that way, CJ told me, “it’s still porn.”

50’s pulp short story. Bloke has a job running a “girlfriend experience” or summat. Guys come in, take a pill, interact with a computing/robotic thing, think they’ve been to see their girlfriend. Can’t recall why it’s set up that way. Population worries? Dunno.

So, he knows it’s all a scam because he runs the place. But he’s diffierent of course. His girlfriend is real. In another city, obviously. So, he goes over to see her, gets to where she works, thinks, well, why not take one of the pills…..

Cary’s right, it’s not panic

Even if the underlying bigotry were true, which of course it isn’t, this wasn’t a crime committed in the heat of the moment over an unwanted advance. A man received oral sex from a trans girl he wasn’t sure was trans, was embarrassed about it later, and conspired with his friends to get revenge. That’s not a panic.

Again and again the gay/trans panic has been used to excuse violent men – and it’s usually men – who’ve committed terrible acts of violence against LGBTQ+ people. And that’s exactly what’s happening around this horrific attack.

It is a useful reminder that actions have consequences. A possible reaction of a heterosexual finding out that their recent sexual partner is trans is violence. It is not necessary to condone the violence – which, of course, I do not – to still point out that, given humans, this is a possible reaction. So, you know, make matters clear in advance?

It’s also sexual assault by deception so there is that. Like the bird prosecuted for pretending with a dildo with her clearly not very bright female partner.

That’s not coercion, Honey

In one account, he allegedly had sex with a 21-year-old in a hotel room who had contacted him for help with her university fees, giving her a $750 cheque for “tuition reimbursement”.

The woman told the committee that their encounter “could potentially be a form of coercion because I really needed the money”.

That could be you being a whore – even if only part time – but it’s not coercion.

Amazin’

The term demisexuality was coined in 2006 and is on the spectrum of asexuality: sexual attraction only comes after an emotional connection has been built.

Wasn’t all that long ago that this was considered normal for female sexuality. Not unusual in male either.

Now, of course, that was also pushing a bit too much the control who women are bonking way too. Plenty of women have indeed been happy with going with the glint in the eye rather than only bonking special folk.

Not fancying anyone at first sight is further along the spectrum than me. But not wanting to have sex without an emotional connection? Surely that’s everyone over the age of 25.

Sure there’s a spectrum. But not being willing to share bodily fluids with every passing rando is not all that unusual a stance.

Oh aye?

The videos Matt Gaetz is alleged to have shown colleagues were not the sort of thing usually associated with the staid halls of the US Congress.

One video allegedly shown by the Florida congressman featured a young woman hula-hooping. Other images are alleged to have shown women he claimed to have slept with.

At other times, Mr Gaetz was accused of boasting of his sexual escapades.

Markwayne Mullin, a fellow Republican and senator for Oklahoma, said last year: “We all saw videos he was showing on the House floor, that all of us had walked away, of girls that he had slept with.

Gosh, why hasn’t anyone investigated this?

Last year, the DOJ told Mr Gaetz it was ending the investigation without charging him with any crimes.

In 2021, the House Ethics Committee opened its own investigation into some of the same allegations, as well as accusations Mr Gaetz had misused state identification records, converted campaign funds to personal use, wrongly accepted gifts, and shared inappropriate images or videos.

He again denied any wrongdoing and said he was the victim of a smear.

The committee later dropped some strings of the investigation, including on sharing of videos,

Oh, it has been. Gosh.

Erm?

What Brighton tells us about Britain’s tumbling birth rate

Stick all hte gays, trannies and Greens in hte same place and no one has kids?

Having Caroline Lucas as your MP stops you fucking?

What? What could be the reason?

And now a difficult question

Child sexual abuse imagery generated by artificial intelligence tools is becoming more prevalent on the open web and reaching a “tipping point”, according to a safety watchdog.

The Internet Watch Foundation said the amount of AI-made illegal content it had seen online over the past six months had already exceeded the total for the previous year.

The organisation, which runs a UK hotline but also has a global remit, said almost all the content was found on publicly available areas of the internet and not on the dark web, which must be accessed by specialised browsers.

The IWF’s interim chief executive, Derek Ray-Hill, said the level of sophistication in the images indicated that the AI tools used had been trained on images and videos of real victims. “Recent months show that this problem is not going away and is in fact getting worse,” he said.

So?

We know that child sexual abuse is bad. We’re really very sure indeed that imagery of child sexual abuse is also bad. For it contains evidence of child sexual abuse.

On the other hand we’re also very sure that pornography of a thing is a substitute for that thing. No, not a complement, a substitute. More porn means less physical world of that thing.

So, what should we be doing about AI generated child porn? Subsidising it so as to get less child sex abuse?

Worth noting that what we should do and what politics will allow us to do are different things.

This is going to get a little wild

Combs, 54, has faced several allegations of sexual assault.

Last week, singer Dawn Richard filed a lawsuit accusing Combs of sexual assault, battery, sex trafficking, gender discrimination and fraud in the Southern District of New York. Combs denies the allegations.

The grand jury has indicted him, he’s arrested. But this civil suit. “Gender discrimination” is now a civil tort that you can be sued for as an individual? Really? Given the varied complaints about sex there I thought discrimination on the basis of gender was fairly normal?

Umm, no mate, no

Marlena Meczynska-Shiibashi, 38, waited until her boyfriend, 50, had fallen asleep and then poured bleach on his face.

As he was confused and fumbling for his clothes in the dark, she stabbed him in the groin, narrowly missing his penis.

The music teacher later said in court: “I wanted to harm his penis but because he moved I got his thigh instead.”

On Friday, she was sentenced to seven years in prison at Lewes Crown Court after she pleaded guilty to wounding her boyfriend with intent to cause grievous bodily harm.

The court heard that the couple had been in an on-again off-again relationship since 2011.

On the day of the attack in April last year, Maczynska-Shiibashi had tried to initiate sex with her partner at her home in Hastings, East Sussex, but he refused, saying: “Please don’t.”

‘I realised it was bleach’
He then went to sleep but was woken when he felt liquid being poured onto his left cheek.

He told the court: “My next recollection was some liquid being poured over the left side of my face. When I inhaled I realised it was bleach. It went into my nose and ear.

“I sat up straight away and that’s when she threw the remainder of the contents of the glass into my face.”

The victim said he tried to use his phone torch to find his clothing and managed to get his socks on when he was stabbed in the groin.

Blinded by the bleach, he described feeling warm liquid running down his leg.

Putting your socks on might not have been the appropriate reaction to some crazed bint trying to cut your willie off……

Our resident expert might wish to comment upon this

The first is the age-old assumption that women who take payment for sex – who are overwhelmingly coerced or trafficked into this rotten “industry”

One of those assertions that simply isn’t true, isn’t it.

And women are being trafficked into the UK from countries such as Romania and effectively held as sex slaves to be raped by several men a day paying for the privilege.

Another of those assertions which is not even congruent with reality.

FFS, a real, proper, total and whole investigation was done into this. Operation Pentameter.

The UK’s biggest ever investigation of sex trafficking failed to find a single person who had forced anybody into prostitution in spite of hundreds of raids on sex workers in a six-month campaign by government departments, specialist agencies and every police force in the country.

It’s just not true.

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a href=”https://www.theguardian.com/science/article/2024/aug/18/you-feel-a-bit-mass-produced-donor-conceived-people-on-the-export-of-uk-sperm”>Experts have warned that sperm donated in the UK is being exported and used to create large numbers of children across multiple countries, contradicting a strict 10-family limit that applies in the UK.

A legal loophole means that while a single donor can be used to create no more than 10 families in UK fertility clinics, there are no restrictions on companies making sperm or eggs available for additional fertility treatments abroad.

Sperm is also imported into the country. Which must face the same problems.

The problem being that the limitations upon who may donate being so strict that there aren’t enough who meet them.

Gonna be interesting, no?

Sweden has registered Europe’s first case of the more dangerous variant of mpox which is spreading rapidly in Africa, after the WHO declared a global public health emergency.

“We have now […] had confirmation that we have one case in Sweden of the more grave type of mpox, the one called Clade 1,” Health and Social Affairs Minister Jakob Forssmed told a press conference on Thursday.

Sweden’s Public Health Agency said: “It is the first case caused by clade 1 to be diagnosed outside the African continent.”

Last time around with this one we had the more actively gay insisting that it was terrible that no one was taking it seriously. Then a few out here said look, if you stop shagging around quite so much then perhaps the outbreak will die down. At which point some of the more sensible actively gay said Guys, why don’t we stop shagging around quite so much for a few weeks? At which point the nascent epidemic did start to fade away. The non gay folk who’d said shag less were still vilified because homophobic bastards, the less shagging as a triumph of the gay community overcoming adversity.

It’s not specifically gay of course. Not the mechanics that is – it’s that there’s that portion of Teh Gayers who are, by the standards of the rest of society, virulently multipartnered, almost randomly orgiastic. Chacun a son gout of course but there are always costs to everything, just as there are benefits.

It’s going to be fun to see whether the spread this time works along the same lines. Well, for observers – this isn’t going to be fun for anyone who gets it.

One more thought on it – PrEP works great against spreading HIV. But the behaviour that allows does leave opportunities for other opportunistic infections, no?

Not wholly sure it’s worked out that way

Their eyes opened by the swinging 60s, and with women empowered by the pill,

When you’ve control of something in scarcity then you’ve power over those that want it. When there’s an abundance of supply then you, the supplier, is less empowered.

Obviously, it did mean that women got to have more sex and more fun. But not wholly sure that’s exactly the same as empowered.

There’s a certain difficulty here

Yamauchi said that the campaign is “exploitative, demeaning, sexist, regressive rubbish”. “Of course the intended audience is men,” she added. “Portraying women as sex objects will not encourage teenage girls into sport.”

Perhaps not. And perhaps the portrayal should be different and all that. And possibly even not “objects” and all that.

But it is true that teenage girls are considered sexy by humans. Which is that difficulty. Those changes at puberty are exactly what signal to other humans about sex. Sure, sure, we can run with all sorts of societal controls – not until 16, or 18, or until marriage, or she wants to or whatever. But the base thing really is that tits, hips n’hairy pudenda are sexy simply because that’s what signifies looming fertility in humans.

Which is that bit of a problem.

Err, yes

Sex in an LA spa was strangely wholesome, like an extension of the wellness experience’: This is how we do it in America

Rob used to be hyper-monogamous – but then he met Mikey and discovered a whole world of experimentation

Anyone ever seen the word or phrase “hyper-monogamy” before?

Terrible, terrible

Revealed: how a US far-right group is influencing anti-gay policies in Africa
US anti-pornography campaigning group has advised, promoted and endorsed anti-LGBTQ+ activists and politicians in Uganda

The very worst of extreme Christian colonialism, of course it is.

#Whereas US and other pro-gay rights campaigning groups aren’t colonialism at all, they’re just ‘uman rights, right?

Foreigners tellin’ everyone brown what to do is only sometimes colonialism, see?

In a multicultural society which culture rules?

OK, so age of consent, under that it’s rape. Fair enough. But what if in one of the multis- it’s common for a relationahip to start under 16?

A man who raped a 12-year-old girl was acquitted by a court that deemed their relations formed “part of the cultural reality of the gipsy community”.

Under Spanish law, minors under the age of 16 cannot consent to sex. But the court ruled that the man, who was 20 years old at the time, should benefit from a legal exception.

The ruling in Ciudad Real in central Spain, holds that the relationship was “always consensual within the framework of a romantic relationship”, adding that the two were “close in age and maturity”.

The acquittal is the latest in a series of rulings in which judges have taken into account customs followed by some of Spain’s Roma population when dealing with cases of sexual assault concerning minors.

It was rape because she was 12. In the eyes of her community it – so we are told at least – it was a normal enough time to have selected a mate.

According to the ruling, the defendant said he did not know the exact age of the minor and discovered that she was 12 only when they went to the doctor about her pregnancy.

Prosecutors had asked for a sentence of 11 years for a crime of repeated rape against a minor.

However, the court ruled to acquit, describing it as “an undisputed fact [that] the relationship took place in the cultural and social context of the gipsy community, where marriages between very young people are frequent”.

Whose rules win? And how multicultural are we being if our culture overrides their?

Well, yes, OK

Making the case against her, barrister Joe Allman sought to illuminate how differently society tends to view female teacher predators compared to their male counterparts. Had Rebecca been “Robert” instead, and the complainants girls not boys, the response would surely not have been the same, the prosecutor argued.

This thought experiment was more than a courtroom flourish. There is evidence to support the idea that society does indeed view female teachers who prey on male school pupils in an alternative light to how male teachers preying on girls are seen.

Society does view it differently. Much of the rest of the article is about how terribly damaging such is and how awfully damaged the lads are by having had sex at 15.

And yet – why does society regard this differently?

Leave aside the teacher part – position of power, duty of care and all that. Think instead about 30 year old haveing sex with 15 year old. Society does view it differently dependent upon the male and or female ages there, which way around are they?

We can and should go on – that society views them differently means they are different. Because this is exactly the sort of thing where it’s the views of society that make the difference. That is, it is different because society views it differently. QED.

How terribly fun

Her film was not meant to be “a demonstration of anything”, but its title and synopsis alone – the story of transsexual women moving from Palestine to Tel Aviv to live out their new identities – risked being read as a political statement on the current conflict.

In Israel, gay marriage can be registered but only if it is performed abroad, and male-to-female sex reassignment surgery is carried out in public hospitals, while in the Palestinian territories homosexuality remains a taboo.

Of course, it rather is a demonstration of something, isn’t it?

One of those little details of Teh Gayer lifestyle

Admittedly, not something I’d previously given a great deal of thought to but apparently this is the sort of thing that makes The Guardian’s problems pages these days:

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. We have always been in an open relationship: we met at a sex party. When we met I was always a bottom and he a top. Over time, however, he has become obsessed with bottoming. He never penetrates me, even in a group, and has starting expressing jealousy about the tops that I attract. I feel he is throwing our life away in pursuit of a pipe dream and I long to get back the dominant top that I married – a role he is suited for physically. He has been looking at escort websites, which I find depressingly inevitable. How can I wake him up to reality?

How unlike the hiome life of our own Dear Queen, no?