Umm, well, no, not really

When 71% of young men are committing acts against their partners that would unambigously be recognised as criminal in any other context, it’s difficult to pretend that a taste for violent sex is not now mainstream.

All sex would be considered criminal in any other context, no?

Seems entirely possible

Is there a safe way for me to enjoy casual sex during the coronavirus crisis?
I have always practised safe sex. Is it possible to find a way to engage in sex with strangers during the current situation?

It’ll be a little less safe, obviously, but the general mechanics will be the same.

Revelation! Hookers track money

At least 100 sex workers travel to Davos, where prostitution is legal, to provide services for clients during the week-long event, according to a senior Swiss police officer.

That is a surprise, isn’t it?

In other news, waiters – also a legal profession – get jobs handing out glasses of wine.


Looking for love? Wash your hands first, say dating apps
How dating apps are adapting to love in the time of coronavirus

Suppose it depends on what sort of date you’re hoping to have, which body parts you expect to be using….

Fnarr, Fnarr

This post banned in China:

China cracks down on ‘sexual innuendo’ and ‘celebrity gossip’ in new censorship rules

OK, just to make sure, Kim Kardashian’s bum, fnarr, fnarr.

There seems an obvious answer here

Rodger and Minassian brought mainstream attention to incel culture; most people who follow the news have heard of incels. Far fewer people know that a woman coined the term. Even fewer realise there are thousands of women who identify as incels, or “femcels”. While male incel culture has been exhaustively analysed, femcels have largely been ignored. (There have been a handful of articles about the phenomenon, the latest of which appeared in Mel magazine.)

We could introduce the one set to the other. If only we could think of a way to do this.

There’s a certain oddity here

More than 300 children as young as six have been deemed suspects in so called “sexting” offences, Scotland Yard has revealed.

Officers said they had seen an increase in the number of youngsters sharing sexual photos and videos of themselves and others, but warned that they could be breaking the law.

The oddity being, well, what children of 6 do themselves – no, not done to them – is pretty much the definition of childhood activities, isn’t it? Something which perhaps ought not to be criminalised?

So, err, why is this a problem?

From the earliest ages of cinema, the “prostitute with a heart of gold” has been a stock character in comedies, romances and dramas alike. The legendary producer Samuel Goldwyn is reputed to have roared: “Get me a P with an H of G!”

But that was the 20th century. Goldwyn died 46 years ago and there will be many who assumed the most clichéd of fictional female characters had been laid to rest after years of debate about sexism in the entertainment industry and the rise of the #MeToo movement.

Instead, the cheerful, resilient prostitute epitomised by Julia Roberts’s performance in the 1990 film Pretty Woman is about to make a comeback in London’s West End.

There are some number of ex-prostitutes out there. Who have married, had families, carried on life just as in any other such nuclear unit.

Why the problem in portraying such?

It has all proved too much for anti-sexism campaigners such as Sandi Toksvig, the broadcaster and co-founder of the Women’s Equality Party. “I wonder if the all-male creative team that produced Pretty Woman have had much experience of being prostituted?” she said. “If not that may explain why their dance moves leap so nimbly over the links with trafficking and abuse. Better representation of women on screen and stage doesn’t just mean picking things with ‘women’ in the title.”

Sandi’s getting dangerously close to the line that if you’ve ever once shagged for money then that’s that, no more normal life for you. Which will come as a hell of a surprise to a certain number of women.

Sorta the one drop of semen, as opposed to blood with the colour bar, damns you.

Bit of an oddity, isn’t it?

Is this actually true?

Fifteen years after every Briton was obliged to start acknowledging that someone they knew somewhere had entered a civil partnership, –

Depends what you mean by “know” I guess. I know of someone, I have met someone, sure. But know, as in that circle of people I might phone up for a beer if I were in town?

15 years ago would be 2005. In which year there were:

18,059 couples entered into a civil partnership between December 2005 and the end of December 2006

Is Ben Summerskill really trying to claim that the 65 million of us all know one of those 36,000 people?

Well, actually, yes, he is but that’s because Summerskill spends most of his time talking out of his arse.

I’m not sure I understand this

“I spoke last night with the first minister and tendered my resignation with immediate effect. Serving in government has been a huge privilege and I am sorry to have let colleagues and supporters down.”

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Sturgeon said Mackay’s membership of the SNP had also been suspended.

Mackay, who has two sons, had been due to deliver the Scottish government’s draft budget for 2020-21 at Holyrood on Thursday. It will instead be presented by Mackay’s deputy, Kate Forbes.

The Sun reported that Mackay, who disclosed he was gay after his marriage ended in 2013, befriended the teenager on Facebook and Instagram and sent him unsolicited messages.

The paper said the teenager’s mother was furious. “I worry about what would have happened if my son had sent him back a message he wanted to hear,” she said.

Sturgeon said: “Derek has taken full responsibility for his actions and apologises unreservedly for them to the individual involved and to those he has let down. He has submitted his resignation as a government minister, which I have accepted. Derek has made a significant contribution to government. However, he recognises that his behaviour has failed to meet the standards required.”

16 is the age of consent. The bloke wasn’t a teacher or summat in a direct position of power over the kid. Why shouldn’t they get jiggy?

Pretty much

“About people like Weinstein and the casting couch and all of that,” she says, “I have a confession. In my day, if you went up to a guy’s hotel room, you knew exactly why you were going and in those days it was consensual. Times were different,”

Rather what my basic – base perhaps – analysis has been all along.

Leave aside what should be. The actual problem here is that we did have a set of rules. No matter how good or bad they were, a set of rules that all knew and which were abided by at that cost of social ostracism if they weren’t. Note again, this is not to say that they were good – or bad – rules. Just that they existed and were known.

Those rules are now in flux. We’ve a number of claims about what the new rules should be. And we’ve most certainly not come to a general societal agreement about what these new ones are.

Which is what the general problem is.

Now, to get back to what the rules should be. I go for capitalism and free markets because that’s, to my mind, the best way of dealing with and harnessing people as they actually are. Sure, socialism sounds fun, us all working altruistically for some greater good, it’s just that homo sapiens sapiens doesn’t do that. Socialism is for some other species, bees, ants maybe.

Rules about sex? Think that whatever the rules are should run with what human nature is. Sure, constrain the bad bits – as markets constrain the greed of capitalism – and promote the good. And entirely willing to agree that effective contraception/DNA tests etc change what the rules need to be even as they’ve not changed a couple of hundred thousand years of how we got here.

So, for example, virginity just ain’t what it used to be. And isn’t as we can all observe out there. But that people will trade what they’ve got for what they want hasn’t gone away – just as an example.

Suppose so really

Like customers in non-sex industries, clients come with ideas about how much a given worker’s labor is worth, and cam performers of color, who are gender queer, fat or disabled have to navigate some clients’ perceptions that their labor is worth less.”

Gwyneth Paltrow’s on screen labours pay more than those of Doreen from accounts. Kim Kardashian’s on screen efforts pay more than those of xe from accounts.

This is a surprise or problem to whom?

The world’s certainly changed

A woman posed as a teenage boy to sexually assault up to 50 girls as young as 14 after grooming them online, police have revealed.

No, not the obvious comment here. Rather, the idea that a teenage boy might get close enough to 50 girls is the new one…..

Lots of headaches about

Half of British women ‘have poor sexual health’



The computer models generated two extra categories for women. The first was predominately characterised by having a “low interest” in sex – the most common form of sexual dysfunction in women – and comprised 29% of women surveyed.

That’s what giving up on colonialism has done to us. No point in lying back and thinking of England any more, is there?

A saving grace

Campaigners have called for nude art classes in schools to improve body image issues caused by social media, and teachers will decide if children can take part.

Artists want models to disrobe for young people and display the unfiltered human form, counteracting distortions of shape, size, and normality young people receive online.

Could solve this simply by a trip to the beach.

But at least they’re not asking the children to do the modelling. That would be too too close to paedo.

There’s an amusement here

A US judge has awarded $13m in damages to 22 women who were defrauded by the owners of GirlsDoPorn, a website specialising in “amateur”-style pornography.

Contractually they’re probably right. They were promised the porn wouldn’t go online, it did, bang to rights.

The amusement rather coming from the underlying claim they’re making. Which seems to be that doing porn is just fine as long as no one knows about it. Which might even be the normal human reaction but still. You have actually gone and done the act, haven’t you?


Quite why we’re supposed to be interested I’ve never been sure. What other people do with their gonads – as long as all are consenting adults – isn’t really my business. Not until that activity is being offered to include my gonads at least, at which point I get to be selective – or non-selective, as happens to men rich in maturity.

But, a political claim:

Lib Dem leadership contender Layla Moran says she is pansexual and in ‘stable relationship’ with a woman

Pansexual – a paedophile specifically interested only in children who never grow up? Like dogging with the goat legged and permanently erect?

Not discriminatory – in either sense, the modern of not oppressing by discriminating, the older of shagging anything that moves?

Incapable of making up her mind, which would suit for a Lib Dem?

Difficult to know what people mean these days, isn’t it? A fruitarian for example, this is t-t-t-touch me, I wanna be fruuiity, right?